Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

My brother got married last year i am not sure if he did as he did not show his Nikkah Nama to my mother. We came to know about his marriage from his friend.He met this Romanian girl over the shaadi site and started talking to her she converted to islam before getting married to my brother and he did his marriage in secret i mean he did ask my parents that he wants to get married to her but my parents did not give him the permission and my mom went to our homeland to look for a girl for him.Is it right for us not to accept his marriage or should we accept it 

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Answer:

Marriage without parent permission

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

To obtain or have the prior consent of the parents of the believing man before his marriage is not an obligatory condition for a marriage to be lawful or legal in Shariah. Thus as much as it may not be considered piety and righteousness in the Sight of Allah Subhanah that one secretly arrange one’s marriage without one’s parent’s consent, if your brother has married a girl who reverted to Islam and he has fulfilled all the obligatory conditions of an Islamic ‘nikaah’….the marriage itself will be considered lawful and legal in the Sight of Shariah Law and of Allah Subhanah.

Your Question: Is it right for us not to accept his marriage or should we accept it 

Respected sister in Islam, regardless of whether you choose to accept the marriage of your brother or not, provided all the obligatory conditions of an Islamic ‘nikaah’ were fulfilled, that marriage itself will be considered as valid and legal in the Sight of Shariah Law and of Allah Subhanah.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan