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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

asalam walikum. please answer my question to whom ever it may concern. I have a friend when she was 17 years old she said a boy nikah kabool hai (she accepted nikah/marriage) 3 times and the boy also said the same in front of two witness 1 male and 1 female there was no imam or no kutbah and now after 4 years when she is 21 she is getting married to some one else she thinks that nikkah was not accepted infront of allah tala but i want to make it sure so please reply me soon before 15th july because her wedding is on 15th july. thank you.

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Answer:

Accepting each other in Marriage

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

In light of the teachings of the Quran and the Sunnah, the following acts are considered absolutely obligatory conditions of a marriage or ‘nikaah’ contract:

1. The proposal by the groom and the acceptance by the bride
2. The determination of the ‘mehr’ gift for the bride
3. The presence of (at least) two witnesses to the ‘nikaah’ contract
4. The presence and consent of the guardian or ‘wali’ of the bride.

Any marriage which does not satisfy even one of the above obligatory conditions of Islamic marriage will be deemed null and void in the Sight of Allah Subhanah and Shariah.

If the boy and the girl have between themselves simply declared ‘Qabool Hai’ (I accept you), without the determination of the obligatory ‘mehr’ and the consent of the bride’s guardian; such a ‘Nikaah’ would be deemed absolutely illegal, null and void in the Sight of Allah Subhanah and Shariah.

The boy, the girl, and the two witnesses who conspired this supposed ‘ceremony’ in their ignorance have made a complete mockery of the sacred institution of ‘Nikaah’ in Islam…..and it would only be prudent and wise that they seek sincere forgiveness for their actions from their Lord Most Gracious.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan