Is there any Verse in Holy Quran, or any reference in Hadis Mubarak that Allah have made pairs in Heaven. And is there any Verse or Hadith that shows that a person having a good character and who is pious will get a wife with good character and for bad person.
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Is there any Verse in Holy Quran, or any reference in Hadis Mubarak that Allah
have made pairs in Heaven. And is there any Verse or Hadith that shows that a
person having a good character and who is pious will get a wife with good
character and for bad person having poor character will get a wife with bad
character. That is a good pious wife for a good pious man and vice versa. That
is a person will get his wife of the same character and nature as he is
himself. Kindly guide me in this regard.
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Marriage made in
heaven
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness
that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Beloved Brother, what we recognize as ‘destiny’ or ‘fate’
is no more than the Perfect and Absolute Knowledge of Allah Subhanah which He
has recorded with Him before anything came into creation. He Alone has the Perfect and Absolute
Knowledge of the past, present and the future; and that Perfect and Absolute
Knowledge of His is what is called ‘destiny’ or ‘fate’ or ‘Qadr’.
Thus, in a sense marriage is indeed destiny, for Allah
Subhanah, in His Absolute and Perfect Knowledge, Knows which of his slave will
marry whom in which particular age.
Because Allah’s Knowledge is Absolutely Perfect, He
‘Knows’ who will pair with whom in which time, age, and place, etc.; but it
would not be an accurate statement to say that Allah Subhanah forces or compels
one to marry a particular person; for whom one chooses to marry is a deed one
choose for themselves, and thus one will be accountable for the choice one
makes.
The Majestic Creator has
bestowed two things upon man (and Jinns) which He has not bestowed upon any
amongst His creation; and thus involved him in a test:
- Intelligence or the Power of Reasoning
- A ‘free will’ to choose whatever path he
wishes to follow in life
Whoever, with the bestowed
intelligence recognizes his Lord and Creator,
and of his own free will chooses to follow the path approved by Him will
be shown Allah’s Mercy and Grace. And
Whoever denies his Lord and Creator, and of his own free will chooses to follow
any other path than the approved path of the Lord, he will deserve the Wrath
and Anger of the All-Mighty Lord.
Because the All-Knowing, All-Wise Lord has involved man in a test for a short period of one life, He has allowed man for this limited period, to choose his path and do deeds as one pleases. It is indeed true that Allah Subhanah knows exactly what each individual will do at every stage of his life, but that is because He has Perfect and Absolute Knowledge of everything of the past, present and future.
Sahih Al-Bukhari
Hadith 6.474 Narrated by Ali ibn
Abi Taalib
While the Prophet
(saws) was in a funeral procession, he (saws) picked up something and started
scraping the ground with it, and said, "There is none among you but has
his place written for him either in the Hell Fire or in
To fulfill the requirements of
the ‘test’, man is permitted to use his intelligence and do deeds as he sees
best for himself; and for this test of one transitory life, there is absolutely
no compulsion upon him. The ‘fate’ or
‘predetermined will’ is no more than the Perfect and Absolute Knowledge of
Allah Subhanah, whereby He Knows Perfectly well what each individual will do at
every stage of his life. If man was
compelled to do deeds according to ‘fate’ or the ‘pre-determined will’, then it
would not constitute a fair ‘test’, for man could then not be held accountable
for his deeds!
When one is seeking a suitable
partner in marriage, the guidance given by Islam is that one should use his
intelligence and power of reasoning, and seek to marry a partner best suitable
to him/her for the life of this world and the Hereafter.
Sahih Al-Bukhari
Hadith 7.27 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws)
said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family
status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman,
(otherwise) you will be a loser."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3090 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, 'When someone
with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in
marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation
on Earth and extensive corruption.'
Thus, although Allah Subhanah
Knows exactly who will marry whom in His Perfect and Absolute Knowledge of
everything in existence; man is under no compulsion. He has to use his intelligence and power of
reasoning and choose the partner that is most suitable for him for his life in
this world and the Hereafter. Had the
choice of partners been pre-determined like one’s parents, relatives, place of
birth, place of death, etc., the Messenger of Allah (saws) would not have
guided the believers to overlook the transient and short-lived aspects of
wealth, and beauty, and lineage when seeking a partner in marriage; and choose
a righteous religious woman if he indeed wanted to be successful in his
marriage!
Whenever something is
pre-determined, like one’s looks, one’s parents and relatives, one’s place and
time of birth or death, etc.; one has absolutely no choice in these matters,
and thus neither has Allah and His Messenger (saws) given any guidance
regarding the choices one should take to obtain maximum height, color, or
looks, or to be born in a particular age, or household, or time, etc. Where one has no choice, one is neither
guided towards a choice, nor is one held accountable for it.
But whenever one has been given
an option or choice….what to believe in, whom to obey, what to eat, what is
lawful, what is unlawful, etc….then not only has Allah and His Messenger (saws)
given guidance one every aspect of that particular matter, but one will be held
responsible for the choice one makes in the Court of Allah Subhanah.
Thus in effect, whom one chooses
to marry is not from pre-determined fate or destiny, nor are
‘marriages-made-in-heaven’, nor is anyone compelled by Allah to marry…….this is
a decision and choice each person makes for himself, and because it is a choice
and an option, Allah and His Messenger (saws) have guided the believers on
every aspect of marriage.
Your
Question: And is there any Verse or Hadith that shows that a person having a
good character and who is pious will get a wife with good character and for bad
person having poor character will get a wife with bad character.
Allah Subhanah has given each
individual the choice to seek whom they wish to marry; and time and time again
Allah and His Messenger (saws) have guided the believers to seek pious
righteous and God-fearing people to marry.
It is definitely within the range of possibility that a very pious man
may choose to marry an impious woman, and a very pious woman may choose to
marry one who is impious and evil!
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 86 Surah
Tahreem verses 10-11:
10 Allah sets forth for an example to the disbelievers: the wife of Nuh
and the wife of Lut: they were (respectively) under two of Our righteous
servants but they were false to their (husbands) and they profited nothing
before Allah on their account but were told: "Enter ye the Fire (of Hell)
along with (others) that enter!"
11 And Allah sets forth as an example to those who believe the wife of
Pharaoh (Hadrat Asiya): Behold she said: "O my Lord! Build for me in
nearness to Thee a mansion in the Garden (in
Who can be more pious and God-fearing than the
And furthermore, who can be more evil than the enemy of
Allah and His Prophet Musa (a.s), the Pharaoh of Egypt, who in his utter
ignorance and arrogance and defiance of Allah Subhanah claimed for himself: ‘I
am the Lord Most High!!!’? But the woman
he chose to marry, Hadrat Asiyah was amongst the most pious and God-fearing
women who ever walked on this planet earth!
Such is the status and rank of Hadrat Asiyah, the noble wife of the evil
Pharaoh, that the Messenger of Allah (saws) included her name amongst the most
pious and righteous women in the annuls of creation with the likes of Maryam,
the mother of Prophet Isa (a.s.), and Khadijah (r.a.), the wife of Prophet
Mohamed (saws), and Fatimah (r.a.) the noble daughter of the Prophet (saws)!
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 5.113 Narrated by Abu Musa Al Ashari
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Many
amongst men attained perfection but amongst women none attained the perfection
except Maryam the daughter of Imran (and mother of Prophet Isa (a.s.)), and
Asiyah, the wife of Pharaoh.’
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 6181 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
The Prophet (saws) said, "Among the
women of the universe, Maryam daughter of Imran, Khadijah daughter of
Khuwaylid, Fatimah, daughter of Muhammad (saws), and Asiyah the wife of Pharaoh
are enough for you!"
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and
commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws),
one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any
other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be
assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well
wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister