I am married and staying away from my wife (who is in india). n right now i m not capable to call her here for staying together.
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dear brother
assaalaalikumwarhamtullh,
i am working in your company. i need to know some thing regarding beared. in
islam every muslim brother must have beared(Dadhi if i am mispleling ?). so
please tell me is ti cumpulsory to have beared,i think it is sunnate muqqadda.
please confirm, n also tell one more thing. i am married and staying away from
my wife (who is in
waiting for your reply
one of your muslim brother.
allah hafiz
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Answer:
Beard and time
staying away from wife
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your
Question: ….so please tell me is ti cumpulsory to have beared,
Growing a beard was considered
normal and natural for a man at the time of the Messenger of Allah (saws), whether he was a believer or not. Even the enemies of Islam like Abu Jahl and
Abu Lahb had beards! And because every
man naturally grew a beard, it was not
necessary for the Prophet (saws) to give an explicit command exhorting the
believers to grow a beard.
The only specific saying of the
Prophet (saws) regarding the keeping of beards arose when he saw that the
pagans used to grow both their beards and their mustaches long; thus he (saws) said to the believers:
Ibn 'Umar related
that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said: "Differ from the polytheists: let
your beards (grow), and trim your moustache."
Related by
al-Bukhari and Muslim.
It was only a couple of
centuries ago, when the western culture
and ideology became dominant over the world and muslim lands, that it became a fashion to be clean shaven. And as with any dominant culture, people are always ready to adopt its
actions, whether they are of virtue, or
of vice! But Islam has its own
culture, and growing a beard is part of
the Islamic culture.
The question is why should a
believer, who professes to believe in
Allah and the Last Day, and who
professes to follow the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws), want to grow a beard?
The answer is simple. Today, you
might have seen many youngsters copy the fashion of sport-stars,
Hollywood-stars or anybody else whom they love. If you notice today, many hot
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzab verse 21:
There is indeed the
best example for you in the Messenger of Allah, for every such person looks
forward to Allah and the Last Day, and remember Allah much.
In another narration, the
Prophet of Allah said in narrating a prophecy of times to come:
Sahih Al-Bukhari
Hadith 9.651 Narrated by Abu Said
Al Khudri
The Prophet (saws)
said: “There will emerge from the East some people who will recite the Quran,
but it will not exceed their throats, and who will go out of the deen of Islam
as an arrow passes through the game. They will never come back to it unless the
arrow comes back to the middle of the bow by itself (i.e. impossible!). The
companions asked, "What will their signs be?". The Prophet (saws)
said: "Their sign will be the habit of shaving off of their
beards".
Thus the keeping of beards is an
absolutely encouraged and preferred Sunnah of the Prophet (saws) and every
muslim male must strive to keep a beard, if his model and example is indeed the
Prophet of Allah (saws). He will get his due reward from Allah, Insha Allah, if
he keeps the beard to follow the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws).
But if a believer does not want
to sport a beard for whatever reason, the other believers should not make a big
issue out of it. What is important in
Islam and in the Sight of Allah, is that one truly believes and does good
righteous deeds according to the guidance of the Quran and the Sunnah. And when that happens, it is expected that
the beard will follow soon after!
The beard is nothing more than a
sign that the believer truly wants to follow a Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah
(saws). There are many people who have
long beards, but do deeds against the
commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws).
And there are many people who are amongst the best believers, but do not have lengthy beards! Allah will not decide the recipient of His
Mercy and His Forgiveness from the appearance of the individual; but rather He will decide whether the person
believed and did righteous good deeds as commanded by Allah and His Messenger
(saws).
Your
Question: ….as i m away from my wife since al most 8 months, is my nikah may
haram.
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, rest absolutely assured
that the one and only thing which breaks one’s lawful ‘nikaah’ is the
institution of divorce! There is absolutely no restriction or stipulation in
Shariah Law which specifies the minimum or maximum time a husband is allowed to
live away from one’s wife. If one is
working or traveling away from one’s home, and one’s wife is aware that her
husband is away on travel and will return; regardless of the amount the time
the husband is away from his wife, their this separation has absolutely no
effect on the validity of their marriage or on their relationship as husband
and wife.
But if one’s spouse is deemed lost, whereby neither has he
returned from his travel for a prolonged period of time, nor is there any
information about his whereabouts, and the wife fears that her husband is lost
or dead; she is well within her rights to approach a Shariah Court and initiate
a divorce proceedings against her lost husband, so that she may free herself
from her current marriage and seek to marry another.
If one has chosen to working overseas or away from their
wife and family, and their wife or their family or their society are well aware
that one has traveled overseas to work and will return, and they are well aware
of the person’s whereabouts whereby there is absolutely no fear that he is
lost, dead, etc.; this kind of separation from one’s wife, regardless of the
time elapsed, has absolutely no effect on the validity of their marriage or
their relations with their wife in Shariah Law.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister