IF A WIFE REFUSSES TO HAVE SEX EVEN WHEN SHE IS CLEAN & SAY THAT SHE IS NOT INTERESTED WITHOUT ANY GENIUNE PROBLEM.
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IF A
WIFE REFUSSES TO HAVE SEX EVEN WHEN SHE IS CLEAN & SAY THAT SHE IS NOT INTERESTED
WITHOUT ANY GENIUNE PROBLEM, THEN WHAT DOES QURAN & SUNNAH SAY ABOUT IT.
AND IF THE HUSBAND DOESN`T WANT TO DO ZINAH DUE TO ALLAH`S FEAR, ONLY OPT FOR
ADULT MOVIES TO RELAX HIMSELF, THEN IS THIS PERMISSIBLE?
is
there any ristriction in Islam for the no. of having sex in a month?
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Answer:
Wife refuses sex
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your Question: IF A
WIFE REFUSSES TO HAVE SEX EVEN WHEN SHE IS CLEAN & SAY THAT SHE IS NOT
INTERESTED WITHOUT ANY GENIUNE PROBLEM, THEN WHAT DOES QURAN & SUNNAH SAY
ABOUT IT.
The believing men and women whom
Allah Subhanah has blessed to be bonded in the sacred institution of marriage,
have certain rights towards each other in their marriage. And one of the biggest rights of marriage is
that the couple may enjoy conjugal relations with each other to their heart’s
desire. Unless the wife has a legal and valid Shariah reason for not allowing
the husband to have intercourse with her (menses, post child-birth, while fasting
in Ramadan, etc.), there are no conditions or circumstances when either the
husband or the wife may refuse the invitation of the other.
Abu Dhar al-Ghafari reported: ‘The Messenger
of Allah (saws) said: “there is a reward for you [even] in sex with your
wife."’ The companions asked: ‘O Messenger of Allah (saws) is there a
reward if one satisfies his passion?" He (saws) said: "Do you know
that if he satisfies it unlawfully he has taken a sin upon himself? Likewise, if he satisfies it lawfully, he is
rewarded."
Related by Ahmad and Muslim.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3257 Narrated by Talq ibn Ali
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a
man calls his wife to satisfy his desire she must go to him even if she is
occupied at the oven."
Sahih Al-Bukhari
Hadith 4.460 Narrated by Abu
Huraira
The Messenger of
Allah (saws) said, "If a husband calls his wife to his bed (i.e. to have
sexual relation) and she refuses and causes him to sleep in anger, the Angels
will curse her till morning."
Sahih Al-Bukhari
Hadith 7.122 Narrated by Abu
Huraira
The Prophet (saws)
said, "If a woman spends the night deserting her husband's bed (does not
sleep with him), then the Angels send their curses on her till she comes back
(to her husband)."
Your Question: AND
IF THE HUSBAND DOESN`T WANT TO DO ZINAH DUE TO ALLAH`S FEAR, ONLY OPT FOR ADULT
MOVIES TO RELAX HIMSELF, THEN IS THIS PERMISSIBLE?
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 23 Surah
Muminoon verses 1-11:
1 The Believers must (eventually) win through
2 Those who humble themselves in their prayers;
3 Who avoid vain talk;
4 Who are active in deeds of charity;
5 Who scrupulously guard their modesty (private parts),
6 Except with those joined to them in the
marriage bond,
or (the captives) whom their right hands possess; for (in their case) they are free from blame.
7 But those whose desires exceed those limits, are transgressors!
8 Those who faithfully observe their trust and their covenants;
9 And who (strictly) guard their prayers
10 Those will be the heirs
11 Who will inherit
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter24 Surah
Noor verse 30:
O Prophet,
enjoin the believing men to restrain their gaze, and guard their private parts. This is a more righteous way for them. Allah has knowledge of whatever they
do.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:
Do not even go
near ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a
very indecent thing and a very evil way!
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 4886 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
That he heard the Messenger of Allah (saws)
say: ‘The eye commits ‘zina’, and the palm of the hand, the foot, the body, the
tongue and private part of the body confirm it or deny it.’
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.260 Narrated by Ibn Abbas
I have not seen a thing resembling 'lamam'
(minor sins) than what Abu Huraira narrated from the Prophet (saws) who said
"Allah has written for the children of Adan their share of adultery which
he commits inevitably. The adultery of the eyes is the sight (to gaze at a forbidden
thing), the adultery of the tongue is the talk, and the inner self wishes and
desires and the private parts testify all this or deny it."
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 36 Surah
Ya-Seen verse 65:
65 That Day shall We set a seal on their mouths. But their hands will speak to Us and their
feet bear witness to all that they did.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 41 Surah
Ha-Meem verses 19-23:
19 On the Day that the enemies of Allah will be gathered together to
the Fire they will be marched in ranks.
20 At length when they reach the (Fire) their hearing, their sight, and
their skins will bear witness against them as to (all) their deeds.
21 They will say to their skins: "Why bear ye witness against
us?" They (their skins) will say:
"Allah hath given us speech, (He) Who giveth speech to everything: He
created you for the first time and unto Him were ye to return.
22 "Ye did not seek to hide yourselves lest your hearing, your
sight, and your skins should bear witness against you! But ye did think that
Allah knew not many of the things that ye used to do!
23 "But this thought of yours which ye did entertain concerning
your Lord hath brought you to destruction, and (now) have ye become of those
utterly lost!"
Although in legal terminology ‘zina’ would constitute the
actual penetration of the male organ into the female organ, the Messenger of
Allah (saws) warned the believers regarding the minor ‘zina’ of the eyes,
hands, legs, etc. Not only is the evil act of ‘zina’ prescribed as absolutely forbidden
in Islam, every path or every way that leads one to this evil path is also
declared as forbidden! Such is the
gravity of this abomination of ‘zina’, that Allah Subhanah commands the
believers in the Quran: ‘Do not even go near ‘zina’!!!
Thus if one intentionally sees and watches ‘fahisha’
(indecency), it would constitute ‘zina’ of the eyes; if one derives pleasure
from talks of ‘fahisha’, it would constitute ‘zina’ of the ears and mouth, if
one touches or goes towards something or someone with the intention of
‘fahisha’, it would constitute ‘zina’ of the hands and the legs! Although there is no prescribed punishment
for the ‘zina’ of the eyes, mouth, ears, hands and feet in the life of this
world, if one dies without seeking ‘taubah’ and repentance from their Lord, he
will be held severely accountable for these acts of ‘minor’ zina in the
Presence of their Majestic Lord in the Hereafter. The abomination of masturbation is a sin and
an evil act, and the believers who sincerely fear Allah and the Last Day must
strive to absolutely abstain from this and all evil.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah
Aaraaf verse 33:
33 Say (O Prophet (saws)): ‘The things that my Lord hath indeed (absolutely)
forbidden (declared ‘haraam’) are: shameful deeds whether open or secret;
sins and trespasses against truth or reason; assigning of partners to Allah for
which he hath given no authority; and saying things about Allah of which ye
have no knowledge.
Under absolutely no circumstances and conditions would the
abomination and evil of ‘fashisha’ (shameful or indecent deeds) ever be
permissible for a believer in Shariah! None whatsoever!
Your Question: is
there any ristriction in Islam for the no. of having sex in a month?
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verses 222-223:
222 They ask thee concerning women's courses. Say: ‘They are a hurt and a pollution; so
keep away from women in their courses and do not approach them (for sexual
intercourse) until they are clean. But
when they have purified themselves ye may approach them in any manner
time or place ordained for you by Allah. For Allah loves those who turn to Him
constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean.
223 Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or
how ye will.
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, there is absolutely no
restriction in Shariah regarding the number of times a couple united in the
sacred bond of marriage may enjoy conjugal relations with each other…..
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister