I had asked a question mybe a month back or so regarding the beard.
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I had
asked a question mybe a month back or so regarding the beard that if the husband wants to grow his beard but the wife
refuses so what should be done please note that the husband already has a beard
which the wife does not object but he wants to grow more so that it comes in
his palm which the wife does not want you have still not replied to me
regarding the above question please do so and now secondly i want to know that
if from one month or more the husband does not feel like having sex because he
does not get an erection or sometimes he is tired with all other outdoor
activities and the wife has a sex urge so what should she do ? can she watch
blue movies and masturbat or is it haraam in islam?
Please
i will be extremely greatly if you answer these questions as soon as possible
without any delay
Thanking
you
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Answer:
Wife masturbation and beard
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Growing a beard was considered
normal and natural for a man at the time of the Messenger of Allah (saws),
whether he was a believer or not. Even
the enemies of Islam like Abu Jahl and Abu Lahb had long beards! And because every man naturally grew a
beard, it was not necessary for the Prophet (saws) to give an explicit command
exhorting the believers to grow a beard.
The only specific saying of the Prophet
(saws) regarding the keeping of beards arose when he saw that the pagans used
to grow both their beards and their mustaches long; thus he (saws) said to the believers:
Ibn 'Umar related
that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said: "Differ from the polytheists: let
your beards (grow), and trim your moustache."
Related by
al-Bukhari and Muslim.
It was only a couple of
centuries ago, when the western culture
and ideology became dominant over the world and muslim lands, that it became a fashion to be clean
shaven. And as with any dominant
culture, people are always ready to adopt its actions, whether they are of
virtue, or of vice! But Islam has its
own culture, and growing a beard is part of the Islamic culture.
The question is why should a
believer, who professes to believe in
Allah and the Last Day, and who
professes to follow the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws), want to grow a beard?
The answer is simple. Today, you
might have seen many youngsters copy the fashion of sport-stars,
Hollywood-stars or anybody else whom they love. If you notice today, many hot
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzab verse 21:
There is indeed the
best model for you in the Messenger of Allah, for every such person looks
forward to Allah and the Last Day, and remember Allah much.
In another narration, the
Prophet of Allah said in narrating a prophecy of times to come:
Sahih Al-Bukhari
Hadith 9.651 Narrated by Abu Said
Al Khudri
The Prophet (saws)
said: “There will emerge from the East some people who will recite the Quran,
but it will not exceed their throats, and who will go out of the deen of Islam
as an arrow passes through the game. They will never come back to it unless the
arrow comes back to the middle of the bow by itself (i.e. impossible!). The
companions asked, "What will their signs be?". The Prophet (saws)
said: "Their sign will be the habit of shaving off of their
beards".
Thus the keeping of beards is an
encouraged and preferred Sunnah of the Prophet (saws) and every muslim must
strive to keep a beard, if his model is indeed the Prophet of Allah (saws). He
will get his due reward from Allah, Insha Allah, if he keeps the beard to
follow the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws).
What is important in Islam and
in the Sight of Allah, is that one truly believes and does good righteous
deeds. And when that happens, it is
expected that the beard will follow soon after!
The beard is nothing more than a
sign that the believer truly wants to follow a Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah
(saws). There are many people who have
long beards, but do deeds against the commands of Allah and His Messenger
(saws). And there are many people who
are amongst the best believers, but do not have beards! Allah will not decide the recipient of His
Mercy and His Forgiveness from the appearance of the individual or the size of
one’s beard; but rather He will decide whether the person believed and did
righteous deeds as he was commanded by Allah and His Messenger (saws).
Because each individual has been blessed by nature to have
different levels of facial hair-growth, to the best of our knowledge there is
no specific injunction in Shariah Law regarding the exact length of beard a
believer is obliged to adorn. There are
reports from some companions of the Noble Prophet (saws) who said that they
would hold the beard in the fist of their hands and whatever exceeded that,
they would trim that, while other reports say that the beards of some other
companions would be long unto their chests.
And Allah Alone Knows best.
What is certain and recorded in the authentic and
established narrations regarding the beard is this narration from Hadrat Abdullah
ibn Umar (r.a.):
Ibn 'Umar related
that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said: "Differ from the polytheists: let
your beards (grow), and trim your moustache."
Related by
al-Bukhari and Muslim.
Your Question: if
the husband wants to grow his beard but the wife refuses so what should be done
please note that the husband already has a beard which the wife does not object
but he wants to grow more so that it comes in his palm which the wife does not
want
If the husband has grown the beard to please or win the
approval of his wife, then he may do what pleases his wife; but if the reason
the husband has grown the beard is because he strives to obey Allah and follow
the Sunnah of Allah’s Messenger (saws), then he should absolutely disregard
whether any in creation approves of his act or not and do only what pleases
Allah Subhanah.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3696 Narrated by An-Nawwas ibn Sam'an
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A
creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the
Creator."
Your Question: ……and
the wife has a sex urge so what should she do ? can she watch blue movies and
masturbat or is it haraam in islam?
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 23 Surah
Muminoon verses 1-11:
1 The Believers must (eventually) win through
2 Those who humble themselves in their prayers;
3 Who avoid vain talk;
4 Who are active in deeds of charity;
5 Who scrupulously guard their modesty (private parts),
6 Except with those joined to them in the
marriage bond,
or (the captives) whom their right hands possess; for (in their case) they are free from blame.
7 But those whose desires exceed those limits, are transgressors!
8 Those who faithfully observe their trust and their covenants;
9 And who (strictly) guard their prayers
10 Those will be the heirs
11 Who will inherit
The scholars of all schools of thought are unanimous in
their opinion that the evil act of ‘masturbation’ would, without an iota of a
doubt, fall under the category of ‘those whose
desires exceed the limits’.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter24 Surah
Noor verse 30:
O Prophet,
enjoin the believing men to restrain their gaze, and guard their private parts. This is a more righteous way for them. Allah has knowledge of whatever they
do.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:
Do not even go near
‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very
evil way!
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 4886 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
That he heard the Messenger of Allah (saws)
say: ‘The eye commits ‘zina’, and the palm of the hand, the foot, the body, the
tongue and private part of the body confirm it or deny it.’
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.260 Narrated by Ibn Abbas
I have not seen a thing resembling 'lamam'
(minor sins) than what Abu Huraira narrated from the Prophet (saws) who said
"Allah has written for the children of Adam their share of adultery which
he commits inevitably. The adultery of the eyes is the sight (to gaze at a
forbidden thing), the adultery of the tongue is the talk, and the inner self
wishes and desires and the private parts testify all this or deny it."
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 36 Surah
Ya-Seen verse 65:
65 That Day shall We set a seal on their mouths. But their hands will speak to Us and their
feet bear witness to all that they did.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 41 Surah
Ha-Meem verses 19-23:
19 On the Day that the enemies of Allah will be gathered together to
the Fire they will be marched in ranks.
20 At length when they reach the (Fire) their hearing, their sight, and
their skins will bear witness against them as to (all) their deeds.
21 They will say to their skins: "Why bear ye witness against
us?" They (their skins) will say:
"Allah hath given us speech, (He) Who giveth speech to everything: He
created you for the first time and unto Him were ye to return.
22 "Ye did not seek to hide yourselves lest your hearing, your
sight, and your skins should bear witness against you! But ye did think that
Allah knew not many of the things that ye used to do!
23 "But this thought of yours which ye did entertain concerning
your Lord hath brought you to destruction, and (now) have ye become of those
utterly lost!"
Although in legal terminology ‘zina’ would constitute the
actual penetration of the male organ into the female organ, the Messenger of
Allah (saws) warned the believers regarding the minor ‘zina’ of the eyes,
hands, legs, etc. Not only is the evil act of ‘zina’ prescribed as absolutely
forbidden in Islam, every path or every way that leads one to this evil path is
also declared as forbidden! Such is the
gravity of this abomination of ‘zina’, that Allah Subhanah commands the
believers in the Quran: ‘Do not even go near ‘zina’!!!
Thus if one intentionally sees and watches ‘fahisha’
(indecency), it would constitute ‘zina’ of the eyes; if one derives pleasure
from talks of ‘fahisha’, it would constitute ‘zina’ of the ears and mouth, if
one touches or goes towards something or someone with the intention of
‘fahisha’, it would constitute ‘zina’ of the hands and the legs! Although there is no prescribed punishment
for the ‘zina’ of the eyes, mouth, ears, hands and feet in the life of this
world, if one dies without seeking ‘taubah’ and repentance from their Lord, he
will be held severely accountable for these acts of ‘minor’ zina in the
Presence of their Majestic Lord in the Hereafter. The abomination of masturbation is a sin and
an evil act, and the believers who sincerely fear Allah and the Last Day must
strive to absolutely abstain from this and all evil.
Your Question
(again): ……and the wife has a sex urge so what should she do ? can she watch
blue movies and masturbat or is it haraam in islam?
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah
Aaraaf verse 33:
33 Say (O Prophet (saws)): ‘The things that my Lord hath indeed (absolutely)
forbidden (declared ‘haraam’) are: shameful deeds whether open or secret;
sins and trespasses against truth or reason; assigning of partners to Allah for
which he hath given no authority; and saying things about Allah of which ye
have no knowledge.
Under absolutely no circumstances are the believers, men
and women alike, allowed to approach any indecent or shameful deed; and without
an iota of a doubt the watching of indecent movies or masturbation is a
manifest act of ‘fahisha’ which the Lord All-Mighty has Declared absolutely
‘haraam’ and prohibited for those who sincerely believe in Him and the Last
Day.
The wife may employ every means at her disposal to entice
her husband to fulfill her natural physical desire in marriage; and if even
after her very best efforts she is not satisfied she should either bear her
situation with patience, or even go as far as seek a divorce …… but under
absolutely no circumstances should a believer who sincerely believes in Allah
and the Last Day seek their satisfaction from the ‘fahisha’ (unlawful,
shameful, and indecent deeds).
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister