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my question is how can i control my sexual desires in this age when they r at their peak.

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Control sexual desire

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 29 Surah Ankabut verse 45:

45 Recite what is sent of the Book (Al-Quran) by inspiration to thee and establish Regular Prayers: for Prayer (helps) restrain one from ‘al-fahisha’ (shameful, indecent deeds); and Remembrance of Allah is the greatest (thing in life) without doubt. And Allah knows the (deeds) that ye do.

Dear and beloved brother in Islam, the only thing that has the power to restrain one from committing sin is the constant Remembrance and Fear of Allah Subhanah; that on one Inevitable and Tumultuous Day, every soul will be brought absolutely alone in the Presence of the Lord Most Exalted, Most High to give a full and complete accounting of one’s deeds! If and only if one is able to develop this constant remembrance and fear of that Tumultuous Day of Accounting, one would be able to restrain himself from transgressing the clear boundaries of Allah Subhanah. And amongst the absolute best ways of developing this ‘taqwa’ or constant fear of the Lord Most Majestic, is to recite the Glorious Quran with understanding and the establishment of regular prayers….for it is regular prayer and constant remembrance which helps restrain one from ‘al-fahisha’ (illegal sexual intercourse, shameful and indecent deeds, etc.)

Dear and beloved brother in Islam, as big a sin as ‘fahisha’ or ‘zina’ or illegal sexual intercourse is in the Sight of Allah; those who fear their Lord, and only because of that fear of their Lord restrain themselves from indulging in it, their reward for their abstinence is nothing short of the Eternal Gardens of Paradise!

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 79 Surah Naziat verses 34-41:

34 Therefore when there comes The Great Overwhelming (event)

35 The Day when Man shall remember (all) that he strove for

36 And Hell-Fire shall be placed in full view for (all) to see

37 Then for such as had transgressed all bounds

38 And had preferred the life of this world

39 The Abode will be Hell-Fire;

40 And for such as had entertained the fear of standing before their Lord's (Tribunal) and had restrained (their) soul from lower desires

41 Their abode will be the Garden.

Sahih Al-Bukhari HadithHadith 8.481 Narrated bySahl bin Sad

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Whoever can guarantee (the chastity of) what is between his two jaw-bones and what is between his two legs (i.e. his tongue and his private parts), I guarantee Paradise for him."

Amongst the practical steps one can and should take to stop his unlawful temptation and desires is to marry as soon as possible, for marriage helps one lower his gaze and guard his chastity; and if for a genuine reason one is unable to marry at this time, one should observe voluntary fasts, for fasting diminishes ones sexual power.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.4 Narrated by Abdullah

We were with the Prophet (saws) while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty; and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan