Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.  (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

DAER BROTHER,

I AM REALLY APPRECIATE ABOUT U THE WAY U GIVE ANSWER TO ALL..

WELL MY QUESTION IS THAT MY BEST FRIEND HAVING SOME PROBLEM IN HER LIFE THAT HER FATHER IS NOT EARNING AND HE IS NOT RESPONSIBLE AT ALL ONLY HER BROTHER USE TO TAKE CARE AFTER HER MOM AND HIS FAMILY HER MOM ALSO EARN SOME TIME BY SELLING CLOTHS OR OTHER

PRODUCTS.. NOW MY QUESTION IS IF HER MOM EARN IS IT IMPORTANT TO GIVE HER MONEY TO HER HUSBAND WHO IS NOT AT ALL RESPONSIBLE AND IF HER HUSBAND EARN SOME TIME MONEY HE JUST TAKE CARE OF HIMSELF ONLY & NEGLECT HIS FAMILY...

MY 2ND QUESTION IS WHAT ABOUT MY FRIEND WHAT SHOULD  SHE DO WHEN SHE PRAY , SHE HAVE TO MAKE DUAA FOR FATHER WHO HAVE CARE FOR THEIR CHILDREN!! MY FRIEND'S MOM IS SUFFERING A LOT IN HER LIFE BUT SHE HAD LOT OF PATIENT SHE THINK THAT IN LAST DAY SHE WILL BE REWARDED BY ALLAH BUT AGAIN MY QUESTION IS THAT HOW LONG SHE HAVR TO KEEP PATIENT ALMOST HER WHOLE LIFE IS SPENT IN PROBLEM WITH HER HUSBAND....

I AM REALLY COFUSED IN THIS MATTER PLS BROTHER TRY TO HELP PLS TRY TO GIVE THE REPLY SOON IF U CAN....... COZ MY DEAR FRIEND ALSO SUFFERING IN HER LIFE SHE IS NOT HAPPY AT ALL BUT SHE TRUST IN ALLAH &  THINK THAT ALLAH IS TESTING HER IN THIS WORLD BUT HOW

LONG SHE HAVE TO BEAR WITH HER FATHER U KNOW SOME TIME IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO SURVIVE IN THIS LIFE........ MY FRIEND LOVE HER MOM TOOOOOO MUCH & SHE CAN'T SEE HER MOM SUFFERING LIKE THIS... PLS TRY TO UNDERSTANDING HER ....

GIVE ME RELY AS SOON AS POSSIBLE IF U CAN DEAR!

YOUR SISTER WILL BE VERY GREATFUL TO U BROTHER!!!

ALLAH HAFIZ!!!!

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Answer:

Is an earning women supposed to spend on her husband?

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your comment: NOW MY QUESTION IS IF HER MOM EARN IS IT IMPORTANT TO GIVE HER MONEY TO HER HUSBAND

Allah Subhanah has not laid the responsibility of providing for the family on the wife; that is the responsibility of the husband. The wife can be a millionaire, but she is not required to give even a penny from her wealth to her husband or to the running of the house if she does not wish to do so.

Your comment: ... MY 2ND QUESTION IS WHAT ABOUT MY FRIEND WHAT SHOULD  SHE DO WHEN SHE PRAY , SHE HAVE TO MAKE DUAA FOR FATHER WHO HAVE CARE FOR THEIR CHILDREN!!

No matter what the parents do, the children are duty bound to respect, obey, and cherish their parents. If one’s father is an unrighteous man, the children should constantly supplicate Allah Subhanah to guide their father and beg Allah Subhanah to have Mercy on him, just as the parents had mercy on the children when they were small and helpless.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Bani Israel verses 23-24:Your Lord has enjoined the following: You should not worship anyone but Him Alone! Treat your parents with great kindness; if either or both of them attain old age, do not even say ‘uff’ to them; nor rebuke them; but speak to them kind words. Treat them with humility and tenderness and pray, “O our Lord, be merciful to them, just as they brought me up with kindness and affection in my childhood.”

Your comment: AGAIN MY QUESTION IS THAT HOW LONG SHE HAVR TO KEEP PATIENT ALMOST HER WHOLE LIFE IS SPENT IN PROBLEM WITH HER HUSBAND....

The life of this transitory world is no more than a passing test ordained by Allah Subhanah. Some people are tested by Allah Subhanah when He bestows upon them a portion of His Mercy and Bounty, to see whether they are grateful or ungrateful. And some people are tested by Allah Subhanah when He involves them in trial upon trial, to see whether they are patient and steadfast or not.

For the ones who are patient and steadfast in their trials, Allah Subhanah has promised them a huge reward in the eternal life of the Hereafter. Rest assured, that the Merciful Lord is watching and is absolutely aware of the condition of each of His creation. We pray that Allah Subhanah make the trial of your friend easy for her, grant her patience and steadfastness, have Mercy on her, and reserve a great reward for her in the eternal life of the Hereafter for her patience.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 11 Surah Hud verse 115: And be steadfast in patience; for verily Allah will not suffer the reward of the righteous to perish.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan