Women's way to Jannah is to obey her husband.
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upon all of you)
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Assallaamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa
Dear Brother,
1) I would like to
know if this is true or no that Allah(SAW) mentioned
in the Holy Quran that a women whose husband is angry
with her (due to her disobedience) cannot enter Jannat
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2) Does the same
thing apply for a man if his wife is not happy with him due to his disobenience because i dont know if this is true or no that Allah(SAW) also
mentions in the Holy Quran that a man and a women are equal means the
number of times the name of a man is mentioned in the Holy Quran the same
number of times a womans name is mentioned so do the
same thing applies to both of them.
kindly tell me if there
is anything wrong in what i have mentioned
and what should a man and a women do in these cases. please guide
me and advise me along with the surahs from
the Holy Quran where it states all these things i
will see it.
Allah Hafiz
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Answer:
Women’s way to Jannah is to obey her husband
In the name of Allah, We praise
Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can
misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We
bear witness that there is no one (no idol,
no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your question: I would like to
know if this is true or no that Allah (SAW) mentioned in the Holy
Quran that a women whose husband is angry with her (due
to her disobedience) cannot enter Jannat (
The above is not mentioned in
the Glorious Quran, neither in the Sunnah of the
Messenger of Allah (saws). But in some
authentic narrations of the Messenger of Allah (saws), it has indeed been
mentioned how easily an obedient wife will be able to enter
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3254 Narrated by Anas
ibn Malik
Allah's Messenger
(saws) said, "When a woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during
Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of
the gates of
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 286 Narrated by Umm Salamah
The Prophet (saws)
said: “If a woman dies while her husband
was pleased with her, she will enter
It is obviously disliked
in Islam that a wife be disobedient and annoy her
righteous husband for no valid reason.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 287 Narrated by Mu'adh
ibn Jabal
The Prophet (saws)
said: “Whenever a woman causes annoyance
and torture to her husband in this world, his mate from among the houris of Paradise says to her: ‘May Allah ruin thee, do
not cause thy husband annoyance; for he is only thy guest, and will soon leave
thee to join us in Paradise.’
Your question: Does the same
thing apply for a man if his wife is not happy with him due to his disobenience because i dont know if this is true or no that Allah(SAW) also mentions in the Holy Quran that a man and a
women are equal means the number of times the name of a man is
mentioned in the Holy Quran the same number of times a womans
name is mentioned so do the same thing applies to both of them.
The criteria of the superiority
of something cannot be determined by how many times the object is repeated in
the Quran! The terms ‘Shaitaan’, or ‘shirk’, or ‘disbelief’, etc. are mentioned hundreds of times
in the Quran; but nothing is worse than
these things in the sight of Allah Subhanah!
Contrary to popular belief,
Allah has not created man and woman equal; but rather He has made them balanced
and gave man a degree above woman in the life of this world. The Creator, Who has Perfect Knowledge of the
nature of His creation, has given both man and the
woman, responsibilities and duties according to their nature. Each will be judged by the All-Just, All
Merciful Lord according to the responsibilities and duties assigned to them in
their capacity.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah
verse 228 (part):Wives have the same rights as
husbands have on them in accordance with the generally known principles. But men are a degree above them, and above
all is Allah, the All Mighty, All Wise.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa
verse 34: Men
are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one
more than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly
obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them
guard.
But on the Day of Judgment, a
woman will not be treated unjustly just because she is a woman, nor will a man
be treated unfairly because he is a man!
Each soul, whether one is male or female, will be rewarded according to
their deeds.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan
verse 195: And
their Lord hath accepted of them and answered them: "Never will I suffer to be lost the work
of any of you, be he male or female:
ye are members one of another; those who have left their homes or been
driven out therefrom,
or suffered harm in My cause, or
fought, or been slain, verily I will blot out from them their
iniquities and admit them into gardens with rivers flowing beneath; a reward from the presence of Allah, and from His presence is the best of rewards."
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa
verse 124:If any do deeds of
righteousness, be they male or
female, and have faith they will
enter heaven and not the least injustice will be done to them.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 35: For Muslim men and women, for
believing men and women, for devout men
and women, for true men and women, for men and women who are patient and
constant, for men and women who humble
themselves, for men and women who give
in charity, for men and women who
fast, for men and women who guard their
chastity, and for men and women who
engage much in Allah's praise; for them
has Allah prepared forgiveness and a great reward.
Your question: Does the same
thing apply for a man if his wife is not happy with him due to his disobenience?
Firstly, Allah Subhanah
has not commanded man to be obedient to his wife; his duties and responsibilities are to love
her, honor her, cherish her,
provide for her, and treat her
with love, mercy, and respect.
If the man abuses his responsibilities and duties towards his wife,
indeed, he will be held severely accountable in the Court of Allah Subhanah.
The Prophet (saws)
said in an authentic narration: ‘The
best amongst you is the one who is best to his wife; and I (saws) am best to my
wife.”
He (saws) also said
in another authentic narration: “The best wealth is the wealth one spends on
his wife and children.”
Your question: what should a man
and a women do in these cases.
In Islam, each family can be considered a small
State, and Allah has appointed the man as
the leader of the state, because of
certain natural qualities and because they provide for the family from their
means. But having been given the
position of a leader in Islam does not mean that the man becomes an arrogant
and oppressive dictator like the leaders of the world! In Islam, when one is made a leader, his duty is to fear Allah, and serve, protect and maintain harmony in
his state, by being a just, benevolent, and a loving servant-leader.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rum verse 21: And of Allah’s
Sign is that He has created for you wives from your own species, so that you may
find peace with them, and (Allah has)
created love and mercy between you.
Surely in this there are many Signs for those who reflect.
Allah himself says that he has
created the relationship of husband and wife, so that we may find peace and
tranquility in this relationship. And
Allah has put love and mercy between the spouses, in this sacred relationship
of marriage. But this love, respect,
harmony, peace and tranquility can only be experienced if both the husband and
wife fear and obey Allah Subhanah, and give all the
rights that are due to their spouses.
It is reported that
the Messenger of Allah (saws) said in an authentic narration: ‘The whole is a
provision (from Allah),
and the best of the provisions is a righteous wife.”
Thus, in conclusion, what is required for a peaceful and loving
marriage and a good wholesome life, is first and foremost the fear of Allah Subhanah; that One
Inevitable Day everyone will have to stand alone in the Court of Allah Subhanah to give a full accounting of all his deeds. Once this God-consciousness and piety is
developed in the person, he will always try to obey Allah, and thus do all his
deeds in the best manner,
giving each the rights that are due to them.
Whatever written of Truth and
benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error
is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He
is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan
Wister