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Assalamualikum,

A friend of mine (a muslim) is due to get married to a non-muslim. They are going to have a wedding registration. I am aware that according to our religion this wedding will not be valid.

She is a close friend and i have made arrangements to attend the wedding. However, i am in a dillema as whether i should attend, as it would be in a way supporting an act which is discouraged in islam.

Could you please advise what would be the appropriate thing for me to do? I know the answer is quite clear-cut and obvious, but would appreciate clarification from a scholar.

Although, i try to abide by islamic rules but, not always, hence poorer din/faith. Often i think it`s ok to attend and other times, i doubt my decision to attend.

Thus, seeking clarification, will help me put things into perspective. Please reply soon.

Salam 

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Answer:

Attend muslim wedding with non-muslim

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Statement: A friend of mine (a muslim) is due to get married to a non-muslim. They are going to have a wedding registration. I am aware that according to our religion this wedding will not be valid.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 221: Do not marry unbelieving women (idolaters) until they believe; a slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman even though she allure you. Nor marry (your girls) to unbelievers until they believe: a man slave who believes is better than un unbeliever even though he allure you. Unbelievers do (but) beckon you to the Fire! But Allah beckons by His grace to the Garden (of Bliss) and forgiveness and makes His Signs clear to mankind: that they may celebrate His praise.

Dear and Beloved Sister, it is absolutely unlawful, impermissible, and prohibited in Islam for a believing woman, who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day, to marry anyone but a believer. The union between a believing woman and an unbeliever will be absolutely null and void, and an enormously grave sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah, The Lord of the Worlds!

Your Question: She is a close friend and i have made arrangements to attend the wedding. However, i am in a dillema as whether i should attend, as it would be in a way supporting an act which is discouraged in islam.
Believers attending and participating in such an open and daring transgression would be seen as an encouragement to the transgressors, and they would get a feeling that their deed is fine and acceptable.

It absolutely does not behove and befit a believer, who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day, to attend or witness something which is such an open and daring transgression of the clear Commands of the Lord Most High.

As close and beloved as one may be, the believers who sincerely love Allah and His Messenger (saws) must always make it a point to stand on the side of the Truth and declare and manifest their abstinence from everything that dares to so openly transgress the Laws of Allah The Most High.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 135: O ye who believe! Stand out firmly for justice as witnesses to Allah even as against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin, and whether it be (against) rich or poor: for Allah can best protect both. Follow not the lusts (of your hearts) lest ye swerve, and if ye distort (justice) or decline to do justice, verily Allah is well-acquainted with all that ye do.

My dear and beloved sister in Islam, as much as you may love your friend, and as much as your heart may desire to participate in the occasion, if you abstain from attending and participating in something which is so daringly against the guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws) only for the sake of Allah Subhanah, Allah is our witness, you will have your due reward with your Lord Most High for standing on the Truth, and will be a warning against all those who dare to so openly transgress the Laws of their Lord that the believers will have absolutely nothing to do with their transgression.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.14 Narrated by Anas, Abu Hurayrah.

The Prophet (saws) said "By Him (Allah) in Whose Hands is my life, none of you will have faith till he loves me more than his father, his children and all mankind."

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan