How to keep husband happy?
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asslam laykam plz will u send me some
infomation of how to deal with a husband and to keep your husband happy all the
time?
also plz will u forward me some muslim
councilour contacts plz for marriage?
thank u
allah hafiz
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Answer:
How to keep husband happy?
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your Question: plz will u send me some infomation of how
to deal with a husband and to keep your husband happy all the time?
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah
Rum verse 21: And among His Signs is this that He
created for you mates from among yourselves that ye may dwell in tranquillity
with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); Verily,
in that are Signs for those who reflect.
Dear and Beloved Sister in Islam, what I am about to say
from the Quran and the Sunnah regarding the key to a successful relationship
between the husband and a wife in marriage might seem ‘politically incorrect’ in
this educated-modern but ignorant and ungodly world; but Allah is our witness,
there is no better path to a successful marriage!
While Islam has laid several responsibilities and duties
upon the believing men as a test in the life of this world (financial,
physical, governance, jihad, etc) for an entry into Paradise; Allah Subhanah
has balanced the test of duties and responsibilities of the believing women for
their entry into Paradise with one supreme responsibility that is equivalent to
all the duties of the man! If the
believing woman is successful in this one test, she has been promised
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah
Nisaa verse 34: Men are the protectors and maintainers of
women because Allah has given the one more than the other, and because they
support them from their means. Therefore
the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the
husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard (their property, their
chastity, their honor, etc.)
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3254 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a
woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her
chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the Gates of Paradise
she wishes."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 286 Narrated by Umm Salamah
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘If a woman dies
while her husband was pleased with her, she will enter
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3272 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
When Allah's Messenger (saws) was asked which
woman was best, he (saws) replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when
he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his
wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he
disapproves."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 284 Narrated by Abu Ali Talq ibn Ali
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘When a man sends
for his wife for the satisfaction of his need, she should go to him even if she
may be occupied in baking bread (cooking food).’
In light of the guidance of the Quran and the Sunnah, any
wife who sincerely wishes to have peace, tranquility, harmony, love and mercy between
herself and her husband must be devoutly obedient to her husband! In these modern-educated but ignorant and
ungodly times, where the wife and the husband are pronounced as absolute equals
and thus made to compete against rather than complement each other; where each
is guided by their ‘supposed’ friends and loved ones to dominate the other;
where the woman is told time and again to ‘come out’ and ‘deliver herself’ from
being obedient to her husband; where obedience to one’s husband is labeled by
the ignorant as being a ‘door-mat’; the guidance of Allah and His Messenger
(saws) regarding what makes a successful marriage might indeed seem ‘strange’
in this modern but ignorant society! But
the honest truth is, successful marriages are also a ‘strange’ commodity in
these trying times!
Sahih Muslim Hadith 270 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: ‘Islam
initiated as something strange, and it would revert to its (old position) of
being strange; so Good Tidings for the ‘Strangers’!’
This modern-educated-but-ignorant society has played right
into the hands and ploys of the Shaytaan, who likes nothing better than
dissension between the husband and the wife!
Sahih Muslim Hadith 6754 Narrated by Jabir ibn Abdullah
I heard Allah's Messenger (saws) as saying:
‘The throne of Iblis is upon the ocean and he sends detachments (to different
parts) in order to put people to trial; and the most important figure in his
eyes is one who is most notorious in sowing the seed of dissension (between a
husband and wife).’
Thus, if the believers wish to live their married lives
with their spouse in peace and harmony and tranquility and love and mercy; the
believing man will have to fulfill his responsibilities and duties and give all
his rights in full to his family, and the believing woman will have to live her
life in absolute obedience to her husband.
If either of the two fall short in any of their responsibilities, love
and mercy will give way to oppression and dissension!
It is the duty and responsibility of the believing women
to figure out what exactly pleases her husband and strive to do those deeds;
and ascertain what displeases her husband and absolutely abstain from doing
those deeds! Such is the level of
obedience demanded from the believing wife in a righteous marriage, that the
Messenger of Allah (saws) said these words in an authentic hadith:
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 285 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Had it been
permissible that a person may prostrate himself before another, I would have
ordered that a wife should prostrate herself before her husband!’
Your Question: also plz will u forward me some muslim
councilour contacts plz for marriage?
Beloved Sister in Islam, if you could kindly give us the
location of your city and state, we shall try to the best of our ability to get
you in contact with some righteous muslim scholars or counselors who might be
able to guide you in light of the Quran and the Sunnah, Insha Allah.
If one trusts,
obeys, and follows the guidance
and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), he can be assured of never ever being misled; but if
one believes, obeys and follows any
other guidance, other than that of Allah
and His Messenger (saws), he can be
assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan
Wister