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Salaam

My question is that I am a 28 yr old muslimah and im still not married. Everytime a proposal comes my way people reject me, I don’t know why. I have a good job mashallah, I fulfill all of my routine obligatory duties (my five daily prayers, fasting and pay zakat) and I hope that Allah (Exalted is He!) accepts these humble acts of mine. Im a good person at heart.. However when my parents present my picture to any one, as soon as they see my picture they turn me down. I was wondering if there was any dua for this, also has someone done something for marriage proposals to break or not come because as this happens everytime. Due to this reason I am getting depressed. Also When my parents bring a proposal to me I always feel im not ready and I get really scared for some reason..i also have 2 sisters behind me waiting for me to get married as its tradition to go in order. so the pressure is really getting to me.

jazakhallah.

p.s could pls also tell me how to interepet this Ayah Number 29 of Surah 23, i was reading the quran i still couldnt find it.

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Answer:

Dua for rejection of proposals

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Dear and Beloved Sister, first and foremost absolutely and completely take out this thought from your mind that someone has done something to disrupt your acceptance of proposals; for even if all the men and the Jinn of the world got together and wished to harm you, they would not be able to do so in the least without the precise Will and Permission of your Lord and Protector, Allah Subhanah wa Ta’ala. This thought that someone can harm another in the ‘unseen’ is no more than a superstition, and there is absolutely no room for superstitions in the deen of Islam. Absolutely and Completely All Power and All Strength rests in the Hands of Allah Subhanah Alone.

Your condition is no more than a trial from your Lord, and rest assured that your Lord is well aware of the condition of each in His creation. Because of our very limited knowledge and wisdom, it may be that we think something is good for us, but it might ultimately be harmful for us; and it may be that we think something is not good for us, but it might be extremely beneficial to us; for Allah Alone Knows and we know not.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 216: But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah Knoweth and ye know not.

Thus keep your belief firm in the Power of Allah Subhanah, and constantly supplicate to Him and Him Alone in all humility and hope that he provide for you a husband who is best for you in the life of this world and the Hereafter. If some of the proposals you thought were good and did not materialize, believe it with conviction that these were not the best suitors in the sight of Allah Subhanah for you. Implore Him constantly with humility and hope and keep your absolute Trust in Him Alone to provide for you what is best for you.

The Messenger of Allah (saws) gave a beautiful advice to the guardians and parents of marriageable believing girls in this often quoted and wise hadith:

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3090 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, 'When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on earth and extensive corruption.'

Your Question: p.s could pls also tell me how to interepet this Ayah Number 29 of Surah 23, i was reading the quran i still couldnt find it.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 23 Surah Muminoon verse 29: And say: "O my Lord! Enable me to disembark with Thy blessing: for Thou art the Best to enable (us) to disembark."

When Allah Subhanah destroyed the disbelievers amongst the people of Prophet Nuh (a.s.), and saved the believers in the Ark; He guided and taught Prophet Nuh (a.s.) to recite this beautiful supplication at a time when the believers did not know how long their journey would last, or when the waters would subside, or where on earth (if at all) they would disembark from their Ark!

This supplication epitomizes the firmness of trust and belief a believer must always keep in the Power and Strength of Allah Subhanah; for none in the Universe possesses any power or any strength except Him. Whenever one travels or wishes to go to a new destination, or whenever one is in a state of disorientation where he does not know where his journey might end, etc.…..one may recite this beautiful supplication of Prophet Nuh (a.s.) and re-affirm one’s state of belief and trust in the Power and Wisdom of the Lord of the Worlds.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan