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Dear brother

assalama alaikum

I wrote this letter to seek your advise in the light of the holy quran regarding something i did,in order to save my marriage and mental health.Here's what happened:

I was 18 years when i got married and my husbands sister was nearly 45 years old.She was always the type who would go to any lengths to look young.But with me around this bcame a challenge to her and she was extremely jealous.She made it a point to see that I dont enjoy the initial years of my marriage.She used to instigate my husband a lot. It went to such an extent that my husband and me could look at each other with hatred and disrespect.seperation was all we could think of.During this time i met another lady who told me to read ayah al kursi 21 times after isha prayers and blow on a glass of water and make my husband drink it.This lady said that her husband who was initially a nice man,had got into the company of a drunkard and was slowly getting influenced by him.She read the surah for around 4 months and there was a big fight between both the men and now they dont tolerate each otherand her husband is back to normal.

Being desperate i too did this and after a couple of months my husband slowly started withdrawing from the clutches of his sister.In fact he used to say that with no rhyme or reason he feels a strong hatred towards his sister.I was scared.After another few weeks there ensued a big fight between both of them (which never would have happened under any circumstances)and after this my husbands attitude towards me has changed.He respects and cares a lot for me. My sister in law frequently visits us but she no longer has any wrong influence on my husband.so brother, this was like a miracle to me.My mother was furious when she heard what i had done and told me that i have misused the surah and behaved like a witch.I should have just prayed to allah.I have been carrying this guilt ever since.I hope you will help me understand my action.

If this is permitted,i would like to help a friend of mine who is having problems with her marriage.Her husband has started enjoying the company of some unscrupulous friends and threatending her with seperation.If using the surah in such a way is illegal then kindly mention some supplication by which she can win back her husbands love.

Rgrds

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Answer:

Supplication to win back Husband

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

It is only natural that when a brother or a son marries, the son’s mother and sister sometimes feel jealous of the attention the husband gives to his new wife; and they may feel a little uncomfortable sharing the love and attention of their brother or son with a new person. But with time and patience, this jealousy and competition gives way; and mutual understanding and love is formed between all them.

There is absolutely no basis or authority from the Quran and Sunnah for reciting ‘aayat ul-kursi’ or any other aayahs a particular number of times, or reciting it at a particular time, and then blowing over a glass of water, and then making the husband drink the water as a ‘magic’ potion! Allah Subhanah revealed the Glorious Quran as a guidance to all of mankind; and not as something to be used as ‘jantar-mantar’ or to derive a ‘magic’ potion from its Divine Verses!

The believers, who sincerely believe in Allah and the Last Day, must abstain from doing such deeds and fear Allah’s Wrath and Anger for mis-using and mis-appropriating His Blessed Words. For the one who has done such deeds in ignorance, they must immediately turn to Allah Subhanah in sincere repentance and Taubah and seek His forgiveness; for Allah is indeed Oft Forgiving, Very Merciful towards His slaves.

Your mother is absolutely right, and you should take her advice and always supplicate the Merciful Lord for whatever you may need. Our Lord is very close to His believing slaves in His Knowledge, and He answers our supplications and prayers.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 186:And if My servants ask you, O Prophet, concerning Me, tell them that I am quite near to them. I hear and answer the prayer of the suppliant, when he calls on Me. So let them respond to My call and believe in Me. (Convey this to them), perhaps they may be guided aright!

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chater 40 Surah Mumin verse 60:And Your Lord says, “Call upon Me. I will answer your prayers. Those who disdain My worship on account of arrogance, shall certainly enter Hell in disgrace!”

If you sincerely want to help your friend, then supplicate the Merciful Lord for her, and guide her to be patient and constant in her supplications. Our Lord hears all our supplications and prayers, and He indeed answers the one who calls upon Him with humility and hope.

May Allah Subhanah have mercy on your friend, grant her patience, and make her trial easy for her. May Allah Subhanah instill His Fear in your friend’s husband’s heart, and guide him to the Straight Path of Islam.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 153: O ye who believe! Seek help with patient perseverance, and prayer: for Allah is with those who patiently persevere.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan