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ASSALAMUALAIKUM,

I have a bit pf confusion. i am in love with a girl who loves me a lot too. we both are happy with our life. now i am in india and she is in saudi. she misses me a lot so we both always come online and chat so that we might feel a bit of relief. but some days ago my brother saw me chating with her and pushed me a side and started chating with her and told her that i have to choose between him and her. he thinks that i dont care about him. he thinks in a very different way.he doesnt want me to hang around him. so plz tell me what should i do. i love that girl a lot . i love her truly and she loves me truly too. so plz tell me what i should do.

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Answer:

Chatting with girl

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5: This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers, but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time, when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity, not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work, and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good).

Al-Tirmidhi HadithHadith 3118 Narrated byUmar ibn al-Khattab

The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman, the Shaitaan is the third."

It is absolutely forbidden for a believing man, married or unmarried, to engage in ‘vain’ talk with a non-mehram woman. Forming a relationship with a non-mehram woman, and engaging in lewd or vain talk and secret intrigues is specifically forbidden by Allah Subhanah in the Glorious Quran. The Messenger of Allah (saws) warned that when a non-mehram man and woman are alone (either physically or in conversation through modern technology), the Shaitaan is the third amongst them! And the mission of the Shaitaan, the avowed enemy of man, is to make him disobey his Lord and Creator!

If you indeed truly love the woman, do the righteous thing and approach or send a proposal to seek her hand in marriage to her parents or her guardians and seek their approval first. If you do not desire to marry the woman, seek the advice of your brother and leave her alone.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan