How to stay away from masturbation?
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Dear Brother,
To start off i would just like to commend your
efforts in providing the Ummah with Truth. May Allah
Bless and reward you for your deeds.
Brother, i understand that Masturbation is a sin, and
that it is to be avoided by the beleivers. And i realize that if one is unable to control him/her self
they should marry/fast. But What if for the time being marriage is not an
immediate answer and fasting is difficult to do often. What should one do if
he/she feels the need to masturbate? I mean at the immediate moment, when one
feels a desire, what should the person do to remove the desire at that instant?
I appreciate you taking the time to answer this question. And once again may
Allah Reward you for your efforts. I know from experience that many muslims around the world will
benefit from this website.
JazaKAllah Khair
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Answer:
How to stay away from
masturbation?
In the
name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness.
Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray,
none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no
person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
May Allah
Subhanah reward you with the best of this world and
the Hereafter for your kind comments of encouragement for our humble efforts in
the propagation of the Truth. We humbly hope, beg,
and pray the Merciful Lord
accepts our humble and weak efforts,
forgives us our shortcomings, and
saves you, us, and all the believers
from the torment of the Hell Fire. Ameen.
Your Question: I mean
at the immediate moment, when one feels a desire, what should the person do to
remove the desire at that instant?
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verses 200-201:
200 If a suggestion from Shaitaan
assail thy (mind), seek refuge with Allah; for He Heareth
and Knoweth (all things).
201 Those who fear Allah, when a thought of evil
from Shaitaan assaults them, bring Allah to
remembrance; when lo! they see (aright)!
As soon
as one feels the desire, or the avowed enemy of man, the Shaitaan
suggests the person to transgress any of the boundaries of Allah Subhanah;
the believers should immediately seek the refuge and protection
of the All-Mighty Lord from the accursed Shaitaan by
saying: Aoodobillahe minas Shaitaan
ar rajeem. If the person is sincere in seeking refuge
and protection, Allah Subhanah will protect him from
the assaults of Shaitaan.
Some
other things the believers may do at such a stage is do the wudu, offer prayers, or recite the 113th and
114th Surahs of the Quran
(Surah Falaq and Surah Naas) and seek protection
from the accursed Shaitaan.
The
long-term remedy for keeping the Shaitaan at bay, is
to constantly remember Allah Subhanah, seek and stay
in the company of the righteous, recite the Quran,
read good Islamic Books, listen to good Islamic cassettes and lectures, and strive to stay
away from being in solitude.
If one is
constantly in the face of non-mehram women, or if one
regularly watches commercial television and movies, or regularly reads commercial magazines, etc.
where ill-clad women are constantly portrayed;
there is a greater chance the person will be swayed by the suggestions
of Shaitaan towards fahisah
and indecency. If one strives to abstain
from these devices of Shaitaan, and makes efforts to remain close to
the Remembrance and Guidance of Allah Subhanah, he
will be successful in muting the ploys of the Shaitaan.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 27: O ye children of Adam! Let
not Shaitaan seduce you in the same manner as he got
your parents (Adam and Hawwa) out of the Garden,
stripping them of their raiment to expose their shame: for he and his tribe
watch you from a position where ye cannot see them: We made the evil ones
friends (only) to those without faith.
Whatever
written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance,
and whatever of error is of me. Allah
Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan
Wister