Is it recommended for divorced women to get married again?
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Assalam-o-Aliekum!I have been divorced since 3 years with an 8 year old daughter. Dring this time, i have received few proposals for marriage. I have few questions, if you mayanswer them with evidence from Quran and Sunnah? 1. Is it recommended for divorced women to get married soon after their iddah period is over?2. I read in a hadeeth, that if a woman turns away any decent pproposal without any solid reason, she displeases Allah. Is that true?3. I rejected the proposal of a decent unmarried man because i believe he should be marrying a virgin, as i read in a hadith in Sahih Bukhari. Did i do wrong?4. I have anothr proposal from a man who is married with a wife still in his nikah and two kids. He earns pretty well and he tried to convince me and my family that he can fford bothhis wives and their children. His wife is very much upset about his intentions of getting married to me and is threatning to kill herself if he marries me. I rejected this proposal becaus i dont want to hurt his first wife and further tense their reltionship, althouh he says he will keep both of us in seperate homes and will try to be just between us. I think i will be do 'zulm' if i go on top of his wife of 10 years. Did i take the right decision for these reasons or should i have accepted his proposal. The man is pious, religious, well off and a gentleman and loves his wife too but wants to marry me due to my religious nature. Is it a legitimate reason to get a second wife and for me to accept his proposal? He is also ready to take care of my daughter, which is my basic concern in getting married again to have a dependable pious trustorthy person to act as not only a good husband but a good father to my daughter. 5. Can i decide not to marry ever again and continue to take care of my daughter on my own? Will i displease Allah if i decide not to marry again? 6. There is a hadeeth that women get their husbands in the paradise but what is the ruling for divorced women if she dies as a divorced women only? Will she reunited with her divorced husband even if he was not a pious and practicing muslim ? 7. Can i marry for the only reason of pleasing Allah and sourcing a good father for my daughter? I really apologise for so many questions, but i apprecaite if u may answer all these queries. I am a practicing muslimah and doesn't want to get involved in any act taht displeases Allah. I have tried to read through the authentic books of ahadeeth and quran but have not been able to get clear answers to my above questions, probably due to my ignorance in correctly itnterpreting or understanding teh orders of Allah and teh Sunnah. Apprecaite ur advice at earliest. Jazak Allah!!!
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Answer:
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Sister, there is no stigma attached to a divorcee in Islam. If for any reason you are divorced, you are at perfect liberty to re-marry immediately after the iddah period is completed. As a matter of fact, a woman is encouraged to always remain in a married state, otherwise you would be putting yourself in unnecessary trials.
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