Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Assalamo alaikum warahmatullahe wabarakatuhu.

My younger sister is going on wrong path, she loves a hindu boy. in myhouse only i know about her deeds. what should i do to stop her from such a sin? Shall i told to my parents or directly talk to her(i know she will not listen to me). Kindly guide me the right path according to the sunnat, at the earliest. 

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Answer:

Stop sister from sin

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Respected sister in Islam, first and foremost, one can only help those who wish to be helped….it is not possible for one to help someone, regardless of how much one loves or cares about their well-being, if that person does not seek or wish to be helped!

Dear and beloved sister in Islam, it would only be an extension of your love and your genuine well-wishing for your sister that you fear for her future in this world and especially the Hereafter, and strive your utmost to politely but firmly guide her to fear Allah and His Day of Accounting, and warn her of the consequences which her daring transgressions of Allah’s Prescribed Boundaries might bring upon her. If after your very best efforts your sister does not heed your good caution, and you genuinely intend good for your sister, there is absolutely no harm in you informing your parents so that they as her guardians may fulfill their duty and strive to stop her from falling further into sin and transgression.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.733 Narrated by Abdullah bin Umar

That he heard Allah's Messenger (saws) saying, "Everyone of you is a guardian and is responsible for those in his care; the ruler is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects; the man is a guardian in his family and responsible for his charges; a woman is a guardian of her husband's house and responsible for her charges; and the servant is a guardian of his master's property and is responsible for his charge; so everyone of you is a guardian and responsible for those under his care."

You being the sister are obviously neither a guardian nor responsible for the deeds of your younger sister; but it would be an extension of your sincere love and genuine well-wishing for your sister that you at least make sincere efforts to stop her from falling further into transgression and sin. The final responsibility of striving to stop your sister from sinking deeper into transgression would lie foremost upon your sister herself, and also upon her parents/guardians.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan