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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Assalaalykum,

Dear brother please let me know one thing at the time of marriage meher money was given by my father.

Please let me know if it is correct or I need to give the amount of meher only by the money earned by me. Plz do not disclose my name.

Allah hafiz.

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Answer:

Mehr given by father

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 4:

4 And give the women (on marriage) their dower (mehr) as a free gift; but if they of their own good pleasure remit any part of it to you, take it and enjoy it with right good cheer.

Allah and His Messenger (saws) have commanded and made it an obligatory condition of an Islamic marriage for the believers to give their bride a free gift (of mehr) at the time of marriage.

There is absolutely no harm and absolutely lawful in Islam if the father of the groom, or a guardian, or a friend, or anyone else wishes to pay and thus fulfill the condition of ‘mehr’ to the bride at the time of marriage; for there is absolutely no such condition in Islam that the ‘mehr’ amount must only be paid by the groom from his own money.

If your father has paid and fulfilled the ‘mehr’ amount to your bride at the time of your marriage, that is absolutely acceptable in Islam.

Your Statement: Plz do not disclose my name.

Dear and Beloved Brother, rest absolutely assured that we at the forum never ever disclose the name or the address of any brother or sister who posts a question on this humble forum.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan