Girl boy wishes marriage
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
(May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked
this question:
Asalam,
I was Hindu girl and i love a guy(MUSLIM) and we are in relation since 5 years.
We lot each other to such an extent that we cant live without one another. I
converted to Islam on my wish and he did not force me at all. It was totally my
wish. Im practicing that since four years.
In 2007 my mama logged a police complaint against my BF stating that he is
harassing me. But with the influence he came out with the help of his dad. He
did not go to court as he got a bail. After that we still spoke with each other
and were continuing our relationship but the bad day arrived on April. When my
bf vent to US embassy they took him to court stating that he dint appears to
sign in the court. Actually they changed their house in 2007 when the first
incident happened and the notice from the court did not reach them. Though he
said the same thing it did not work out. He was released the next day morning
and he was appointed in a hospital and got a bail. But cleverly my bf`s father
came to know that we are talking and arranged marriage papers and made him sign
unknowingly stating that they were some court papers for bail. So he signed
them. Later he came to know that they were marriage papers which stated that he
is agreeing for marriage. He was married to a muslim girl unknowingly. The
thing is that from that day he did not go to his house. He dont even know the
name of the girl and did not see her. He is staying at his grandparent’s house.
He is feeling so bad. Im really crying daily for what happened. We both are not
able to accept what happened. We cant stay without each other. Our health is
totally spoiling.
He said he want to give divorce and can you please tell me how to do that?? It
is just two months and half months till that incident happened. Should we talk
to the girl but what would be the situation? How to make the girl agree for
divorse. The marriage was done forcefully and even the boy did not know till
the next day. Is that accepted? The boy is not ready to stay with that girl. He
want to marry me and I told my parents. We can’t live without each other.
Please help me out. We would die without each other.
PLSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
help me with loads of tears.
We
want to marry each other. Pls help us.
Allahafiz
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Answer:
Girl boy wishes
marriage
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
He said
he want to give divorce and can you please tell me how to do that??
Just as a marriage or a nikaah in Islam is a simple
affair, obtaining a divorce too is quite simple in Shariah Law.
Respected sister, if the boy is indeed claiming that he
was tricked into marrying someone he did not wish to marry and wishes to
divorce that wife, all he is required to do by Shariah Law is declare unto his
wife the words: ‘I divorce you’ once…..and a divorce will be established in
that marriage in the Sight of Shariah Law!
Having said that obtaining a divorce for a husband from a
marriage in Islam is as simple as verbally declaring a few words (and it really
is!), Islam guides that a marriage is
not a simple union between just two people, but rather a union of two
families….thus neither should the parents/guardians force their offspring into
a marriage their offspring does not consent to; nor should the offspring seek
to marry someone without prior consultation and consent of their sincere best
well-wishers in all of mankind, ie. their parents/guardians.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan