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Asalam-o-alaikum,

Parents ka apni beti or damad ke gher main rehna or sab expenditures karwana islamic tor per jaez hai ya nahi.jab ke un ka apna source of incom bhi hai,or apna gher bhi.because hamari society main parents ka apni beti ke gher se khana mayub samjha jata hai.is ka islamic way se kia jawab hai .plz guide me.Thanks jizak Allah Kher 

Translation of Question:

Is it Islamically lawful for the parents to live in the house of their daughter and her husband, and expect their daughter and their son-in-law to bear their expenses. The parents have their own source of income and also own their own accommodation. In our society it is deemed unseeming for parents to even eat from their daughter’s house after her marriage. What is the guidance for such situations according to Islam.

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Answer:

Son in law staying in wife house

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

If the daughter and her husband wish to accommodate the parents (of the woman) in their house and bear their expenses, they are indeed well within their rights to do so….and it will be a source of ‘sadaqa’ for them.

The parents themselves have absolutely no right to impose themselves upon their son-in-law’s house against his will, nor do they have a right to expect that their son-in-law bears all their expenses. But if their son-in-law, of his own free will and choice, welcomes them to live is their house, and is pleased and willing to bear their expenses, there is absolutely no harm in the parents accepting his generous invitation.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan