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Dear Brother kindly clarify the following question as in our locality one of my muslim sister facing the problem and wanted to commit sucide.

Muslim Girl -  Not marreid

Muslim men - who is already married and have two children had sex with this girl for 3 months (with mutually agreed) now this girl wants to marry him to come out of the sin which she made, but this man not sometimes saying yes and sometimes saying give some times and some times saying no.  now tell me if they marreid also is it allowed in islam.  give me clear answer.

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Answer:

Marry man to forgive zina

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Although one may, if one so wills, marry the person with whom one committed the abomination of ‘zina’ with…..the marriage by itself will neither ‘right’ the abomination of the ‘wrong’ one has committed, nor would the marriage by itself wipe out their sin from their ‘book of records’ with Allah Subhanah! The one and only thing which wipes out major sins from one’s book of records is sincere repentance and ‘taubah’.

As heinous and as grave the sin of ‘zina’ is in the Sight of Allah Subhanah, if one turns to Allah Subhanah in sincere Taubah and seeks forgiveness, Allah Subhanah has promised in the Glorious Quran that He will forgive all the sins of such a believer, even if one has committed the gravest sin of all: ie. ‘Shirk’! Not only that, our Lord is so Merciful and Generous, that He not only will forgive all the sins of a believer who sincerely repents unto Him, He will change their evil deeds done into good deeds!

The conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:

• One is aware that one has sinned, and feels sorry and ashamed at their sin.
• Makes a solemn covenant and promise with Allah that one will not repeat their sin again.
• Turns to Allah and seeks forgiveness, before one meets with their appointment of death.
• Is a believer and does righteous good deeds thereafter.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:

(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.”

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:

Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 63-71:

The (true) servants of the Merciful are those who walk humbly on the earth. When the ignorant people behave insolently towards them, they say, “Peace to you”; (And those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before their Lord and pray, “O our Lord, save us from the torment of Hell, for its torment is killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly, but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but Allah Alone, nor kill a soul unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who does this shall be punished for his sin, and his torment shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection, and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good deeds, and He is very Forgiving and Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:

When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2338 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah accepts a servant's repentance (taubah) till he gives up his spirit in death."

Thus in conclusion, we reiterate again, the marriage of the girl with the man she committed ‘zina’ with will not wipe out the heinous sin from her ‘book of records’ with Allah Subhanah. The one and only thing that will indeed obliterate her grave sin is sincere repentance.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan