Love before marriage
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
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Assalamualikum, My age is 17 and I am in a deep relationship with my cousin and i want to marry her. I am not upto anything illegal like shaking hand,hugging etc., I love her with my whole spirit and i lower my gaze(on other women) all the time because i am satisfied with her. My question is can i talk to her before marriage?
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There is absolutely no harm if one is attracted to a non-mehram believing woman, as this is a natural phenomena; but the one who is blessed with the guidance of Islam acts righteously and differently than the ones who do not fear Allah! The righteous thing to do is either talk to the girls father or brother or any male mehram guardian of the girl, and in an honest and straight-forward manner request them that you seek to marry the girl. Alternatively, you could talk to your parents or guardians and tell them to talk to the girls parents and seek her hand in marriage. That would be considered a deed of righteousness in the sight of Allah Subhanah.
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