Father commits adultery.
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Asalaam u alaikum brother
I am in need of islamic guidance aswell as my family. my father has committed adultery but hid this from us all these years and now has told us he has 4 kids aswell with the other women. Now my father thinks he should do nika with her, but every one in my family is having mixed emotions.
What should he do?
Brother may allah grant you jannat ul fidous
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Father commits adultery
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your Question: .what should he do?
The absolutely first thing he can and should do for daringly indulging in what has been Declared as absolutely haraam by Allah Subhanah for a sustained period of time..is to turn back to his Lord Most High and seek sincere forgiveness for his continuous grave sin. If he is indeed sincere in his taubah, regardless of the gravity of his sins, it is expected that he will find his Lord Forgiving and Merciful.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: O My servants who have wronged their own souls.Do not despair of Allahs Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2338 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah accepts a servant's repentance (taubah) till he gives up his spirit in death."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."
Your Question: .Now my father thinks he should do nika with her,
There is allowance in Shariah for a man to marry and keep a maximum of four wives at any one time, if indeed one wishes to do so. Thus your father is well within his rights to marry the woman, if indeed he wishes to do so.
But the four children which the lady has borne out of wedlock will be considered illegitimate and unlawful, even if your father marries the woman. Although he may be their biological father, they will not be recognized by his name, nor will they have any legal responsibility towards him, nor will they inherit from your father.
Marrying the woman with whom he has kept an illicit and unlawful relationship alone will not forgive your father his grave sin of adultery.it is only sincere remorse and repentance and taubah which will forgive him his past deeds.
To marry this woman or leave her alone is a decision which your father alone can and should make; and you as the legitimate child will have no choice but to accept the decision of your father.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,