Urgent impotent marriage suicide.
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Assalam o alaikum.
Dear burhan bahi, iam in deep
trouble please help me to come out of this problem, iam 34 years old and
suffering form sextual health problems, iam getting treatment for it from
last 7 years but my health is same no improvements.
my parents want me to get married and
they are forcing me.i cant refuse them now , iam avoiding for marriage
from last 5 years, thinking that if i got wel i will
marry, i can't avoid it further more. because of my
age problem. they didn't aware of my weaknes, in fact nobody knows
about my weakness except Allah and my Doctors.
i have dought in my mind that i
cannot satisfied my wife sextually.so in these condition what islam says about
it can a person marry even though he is physically not fit? and he knwos that
he cannot satisfied his wife?
so brother what shall one do on this
suaition according to Quran and hadith please guide me.
it is allowed in islam to marry even
though one are medically not fit for marraige?
Please burhan bahi please help what
shall i do.despite lot of treatment iam not able to cure my
disease now iam thiking to commit suicide, i have fedup away day by
day iam losing intrest in life and more going toward commiting
suicide. i know in islam it is haram to commit suicide but in my
case i have no option left.
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Answer:
Urgent impotent
marriage suicide
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Respected brother, firstly a marriage in Islam is not
obligatory, but rather voluntary and an extremely preferred Sunnah……thus if one
marries, fears Allah, and fulfills one’s obligations in the marriage, one would
receive a huge reward for their piety from their Lord; and if for any reason
one chooses not to marry, there is no sin upon them.
Secondly, there is absolutely no such requirement or
obligation in Shariah that every believer has to undergo a ‘medical check-up’
and get certified that they will be able to bear children!
But if one has prior knowledge and knows for sure that one
has a physical or medical disability like impotency or one is sterile, whereby
one would not be able to fulfill the conjugal rights on one’s wife in their
marriage….then indeed it would be one’s moral obligation, and akin to piety and
righteousness in the Sight of their Lord, that one clearly makes it known to
the guardians of the bride regarding their medical condition before their
marriage. If the bride, for any reason
thereafter, chooses to agree to marry that person, there is absolutely no harm
or restriction in Shariah in marrying that woman.
Respected brother, if your parents wish to hasten your
marriage and are unaware of your medical condition, it would only be prudent
that you inform your parents regarding your exact condition.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan