Urgent impotent marriage suicide.
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Dear burhan bahi, iam in deep trouble please help me to come out of this problem, iam 34 years old and suffering form sextual health problems, iam getting treatment for it from last 7 years but my health is same no improvements.
my parents want me to get married and they are forcing me.i cant refuse them now , iam avoiding for marriage from last 5 years, thinking that if i got wel i will marry, i can't avoid it further more. because of my age problem. they didn't aware of my weaknes, in fact nobody knows about my weakness except Allah and my Doctors.
i have dought in my mind that i cannot satisfied my wife sextually.so in these condition what islam says about it can a person marry even though he is physically not fit? and he knwos that he cannot satisfied his wife?
so brother what shall one do on this suaition according to Quran and hadith please guide me.
it is allowed in islam to marry even though one are medically not fit for marraige?
Please burhan bahi please help what shall i do.despite lot of treatment iam not able to cure my disease now iam thiking to commit suicide, i have fedup away day by day iam losing intrest in life and more going toward commiting suicide. i know in islam it is haram to commit suicide but in my case i have no option left.
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Urgent impotent marriage suicide
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Respected brother, firstly a marriage in Islam is not obligatory, but rather voluntary and an extremely preferred Sunnahthus if one marries, fears Allah, and fulfills ones obligations in the marriage, one would receive a huge reward for their piety from their Lord; and if for any reason one chooses not to marry, there is no sin upon them.
Secondly, there is absolutely no such requirement or obligation in Shariah that every believer has to undergo a medical check-up and get certified that they will be able to bear children!
But if one has prior knowledge and knows for sure that one has a physical or medical disability like impotency or one is sterile, whereby one would not be able to fulfill the conjugal rights on ones wife in their marriage.then indeed it would be ones moral obligation, and akin to piety and righteousness in the Sight of their Lord, that one clearly makes it known to the guardians of the bride regarding their medical condition before their marriage. If the bride, for any reason thereafter, chooses to agree to marry that person, there is absolutely no harm or restriction in Shariah in marrying that woman.
Respected brother, if your parents wish to hasten your marriage and are unaware of your medical condition, it would only be prudent that you inform your parents regarding your exact condition.
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Your brother and well wisher in Islam,