Husband relationship with another woman.
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
as salaamo alaikum wa rehmatuaalhi wa barakatahu,
there is one hindu lady who was working with my husaband in the same comapny......after my marr my husaband told me that this female is her sister and he use to share everything with this female which i dint like it......we had many a times problem b,coz of her as i dint like this kind of a relationship ....
there was one such time when my husband told me that she is everyhting for her ,he even told me that he can leave me but not her......i was trying to explain my husband that this kind of a relationship is forbidden in isalm but he doesnt understands..burhan bhai i vl be very thankful to u if u answer my ques and send some hadees so that i could make my husband read it and convince him....
i always try to be a devoted wife doing all my duties according to isalm...FIRST THIS WAS THE PROBLEM AND THEN ONE NEW PROBLEM ARISED... MAKING A SISTER WAS ATLEAST O.K BUT NOW I CAME TO KNOW THAT MY HUSBAND WAS FLIRTING WITH A FEMALE WHO IS WORKING WITH HIM IN HIS OFFICE......I HAD CAUGHT HIM REDHANDED SENDING RUBBISH MAILS TO THIS FEMALE.....AND WHEN I ASKED HIM HE SAID HE IS JUST JOKING......BUT THEN HE ADMITTED IT....THIS FEMALE WITH WHOM HE WAS FLIRTING IS MARRIED AND HAVING A DAUGHTER.....AT TIMES I WAS ANGRY I THOUGHT TO GO TO HER HUSBAND AND TELL HIM ABT HIS WIFE THEN I CONTROOLED MY ANGER...
AS A WIFE WHAT SHOULD I DO?????
BURHAN BHAI I NEED
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Husband relationship with another woman
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Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verse 30:
30 Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 33:
33 Say: The things that my Lord hath indeed forbidden are: fahisha (shameful or indecent deeds) whether open or secret; sins and trespasses against truth or reason; assigning of partners to Allah for which he hath given no authority; and saying things about Allah of which ye have no knowledge.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 151:
151 Say: "Come I will rehearse what Allah hath (really) prohibited you from": join not anything as equal with Him; be good to your parents: kill not your children on a plea of want; We provide sustenance for you and for them; come not (even) nigh to fahisha (shameful or indecent deeds) whether open or secret; take not life which Allah hath made sacred except by way of justice and law: thus doth He command you that ye may learn wisdom.
It is categorically forbidden and prohibited for a believer, who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day, to develop or maintain a casual relationship with a non-mehram woman.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3118 Narrated by Umar ibn al-Khattab
The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a (non-mehram) woman, the Shaytaan makes the third."
Your Question: .AS A WIFE WHAT SHOULD I DO?????
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3090 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, 'When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on earth and extensive corruption.'
Respected sister in Islam, the time to investigate and thoroughly satisfy oneself with the character, piety, fear of Allah and the Last Day, and the practice of his religion is before one agrees to marry the person, not after one has already married the person!!!
Your husband is obviously in manifest transgression of the Laws and Boundaries of his Lord Creator if he starts to develop or maintain casual relationships or flirts with non-mehram womenand as a wife who has herself chosen or agreed to marry such a person, you now have basically only two lawful options:
- Bear his unjust transgressions with patience in the hope that one day your husband will fear Allah and His Tribunal, and subsequently amend his conduct.and thus save your marriage.
- If you cannot bring yourself to bear his unjust transgressions, and your husband gives you no reason to believe that he is repentantyou are obviously well within your rights in Islam to seek to separate yourself from such an impious person who neither fears Allah nor the Last Day.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,