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Bride has a right of refusal to proposal.

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Bride has a right of refusal to proposal

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Your Question: ..Sunday meri engagement hai mujhe samajh mey nahin aa raha hai main kya karoon.

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3090 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, 'When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on earth and extensive corruption.'

 

Islam guides that a marriage is not a simple union between just two people, but rather a union of two families.thus neither should the parents/guardians force their daughters into a marriage she does not consent to; nor should the girl seek to marry someone without prior consultation and consent of her sincere best well-wishers in all of mankind, ie. her parents/guardians.

 

Secondly, as much as Islam guides the believing woman who seeks to marry to consult and seek the consent of her guardians/parents; the absolute final decision and right of whether to agree to marry a person or not is in the hands of the bride herself alone. Islam has given the believing woman the absolute right to decide whether she wills to marry a person or not; and that is precisely why her agreement and acceptance to her marriage at the time of nikaah is an absolutely obligatory condition for a marriage to be legal in the Sight of Shariah.

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 9.101 Narrated by Aisha

Allah's Messenger (sws) said, "It is essential to have the consent of a virgin (for her marriage). I (Aisha) said, "A virgin feels shy." The Prophet (saws) said, "Her silence means her consent."

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 9.98 Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "A virgin should not be married till she is asked for her consent; and the matron (divorcee, widow, etc.) should not be married till she is asked whether she agrees to marry or not." It was asked, "O Allah's Messenger (saws)! How will she (the virgin) express her consent?" He (saws) said, "By keeping silent."

 

It is an absolutely obligatory condition of a marriage to be legal in the Sight of Shariah for the bride to consent to her marriage. If the bride is a virgin, and she feels shy to declare or respond her approval, her silence will be accepted as her approval; but if a matron (one who is divorced, or a widow, etc.) is to marry, her silence will not be accepted as her approval, but she must verbally declare her acceptance to the Judge conducting the marriage.

 

If for any reason the girl who is forced to marry a person against her will, especially if she is not completely satisfied with character or practice of religion of her suitor.all she ever has to do is verbally decline and declare to the Judge conducting the marriage that she is unwilling to marry the said person; a marriage in Islam can never be valid without the prior consent of the bride.

 

If the guardians of the bride are forcing a marriage unto their daughter, and the girl is not completely satisfied with the character or practice of religion of her suitor, or for any other reason whatsoever she does not wish to accept this proposal.the girl is well within her rights in Islam to politely (but firmly) reject the proposal making sure that she does not transgress the boundaries of humility and etiquette required of a believer towards their parents in Islam..even if the refusal of their daughter to the proposal hurts her parents, there would be no sin upon the daughter for exercising her right of refusal.

 

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