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In the following paragraph I have posted her set of challenges, please Brother, help me answer her impersonally and rationally. She needs to be convinced by Qur'an & hadith, that women do not have a low station in Islam as depicted in some cultures.

Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

 

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Asalaamualaikum w.r.a.w.b. Brother Burhan,

 

Masha'Allah, you have undertaken a commendable job of assisting people to Allah's guidance- May Allah reward you magnanimously. Ameen.  

 

For long I have read and learnt from people's queries and now I hope our correspondence can rekindle the faith of a victimized friend, inshaAllah.

 

My friend is a revert. I have watched her grow in Deen and perform her duties vigilantly for the past 5-6 years, mashaAllah. She is very independent, has traveled much and now lives alone. From the earliest stages of her acceptance of Islam, she has harboured plenty of questions on women rights. Her fear is mostly based on unjust married life in Islam (specifically in Arabia), which makes her hesitant when approached for marriage.

 

Anyways, recently, her feminist doubts have doubled and her faith has weakened her very much- it is now very apparent, there is a considerable fall back on religious/social obligations. But mashaAllah, she is still open to clarifications.

 

In the following paragraph I have posted her set of challenges, please Brother, help me answer her impersonally and rationally. She needs to be convinced by Qur'an & hadith, that women do not have a low station in Islam as depicted in some cultures. Please, also suggest how I should consort her in maintaining her patience while she finds answers to these probes, inshaAllah. 

 

Jazak Allah khair, 

 

"Salam my dear,

To answer my alleged apostasy and misguidance:

Source: Al Bukhari:

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 64:

Narrated 'Aisha:

that the Prophet married her when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old, and then she remained with him for nine years ( i.e., till his death).

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 90:

Narrated Aisha:

When the Prophet married me, my mother came to me and made me enter the house (of the Prophet) and nothing surprised me but the coming of Allah's Apostle to me in the forenoon.

HUH?

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 113:

Narrated Abu Huraira:

Allah's Apostle said, "The woman is like a rib; if you try to straighten her, she will break. So if you want to get benefit from her, do so while she still has some crookedness."

Ummm.. i tried to think of this one. Who in the world would want to break me?

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 121:

Narrated Abu Huraira:

The Prophet said, "If a man Invites his wife to sleep with him and she refuses to come to him, then the angels send their curses on her till morning.

Seriously? Why would i want to give ANY human being such power over me? Can't i have a headache?

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 126:

Narrated Imran:

The Prophet said, "I looked at Paradise and saw that the majority of its residents were the poor; and I looked at the (Hell) Fire and saw that the majority of its residents were women."

It looks as most of us are doomed. Unless we keep ourselves locked in the house..

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 132:

Narrated 'Abdullah bin Zam'a:

The Prophet said, "None of you should flog his wife as he flogs a slave and then have sexual intercourse with her in the last part of the day."

Notice that it doesn't say that none should flog his wife as he does a slave. (period) it says,IF you flog her like a slave , at least have the heart and not sleep with her the same day. wow, indeed, merciful!

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 137:

Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri:

We got female captives in the war booty and we used to do coitus interruptus with them. So we asked Allah's Apostle about it and he said, "Do you really do that?" repeating the question thrice, "There is no soul that is destined to exist but will come into existence, till the Day of Resurrection."

Now this one you'd say is outdated, right? right? As there's no more slavery. Right?

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 142:

Narrated Anas bin Malik:

The Prophet used to pass by (have sexual relation with) all his wives in one night, and at that time he had nine wives.

And the Qur'an clearly states no more than 4... Hmm...

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 32:

Narrated Sahl bin Sad:

Allah's Apostle said, "If at all there is bad omen, it is in the horse, the woman, and the house."

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 33:

Narrated Usama bin Zaid:

The Prophet said, "After me I have not left any affliction more harmful to men than women."

There are many many others like this.
This is what i mean when i say use logic and intelligence.

No i am not dumb. I am actually investigating.

And here's another one. Read it carefully:

Volume 3, Book 45, Number 687:

Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah:

Allah's Apostle said, "Who would kill Ka'b bin Al-Ashraf as he has harmed Allah and His Apostle ?" Muhammad bin Maslama (got up and) said, "I will kill him." So, Muhammad bin Maslama went to Ka'b and said, "I want a loan of one or two Wasqs of food grains." Ka'b said, "Mortgage your women to me." Muhammad bin Maslama said, "How can we mortgage our women, and you are the most handsome among the Arabs?" He said, "Then mortgage your sons to me." Muhammad said, "How can we mortgage our sons, as the people will abuse them for being mortgaged for one or two Wasqs of food grains? It is shameful for us. But we will mortgage our arms to you." So, Muhammad bin Maslama promised him that he would come to him next time. They (Muhammad bin Maslama and his companions came to him as promised and murdered him. Then they went to the Prophet and told him about it.


So when i say i will pick and choose using my intelligence i mean drop the barbaric customs and keep the ones that have to do with belief and being a good person, not someone's property that can be mortgaged.


So i am looking for truth as it's agonising to read all these things.. So if you can help me with my doubts i will be more than happy


Salam and be happy"

 

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Challenge status of women in islam

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Allah Says in the Glorious Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 36 (part):

and the male is not like the female!

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 228 (part):

228 ... And women shall have rights similar to the rights against them (in a marriage) according to what is equitable; but men have a degree (of advantage) over them, and Allah is Exalted in Power Wise.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34:

34   Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more (advantage) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard (their chastity, their husbands honor, property, etc.)

 

Allah Subhanah declares in His Glorious Quran that the male is not like the female, and although the woman has similar (not same!) rights as her husband in a marriage, The Lord Most Majestic, in His Supreme Wisdom and Knowledge has given or bestowed upon one more advantage than the other.

 

Dear and beloved Sister, the confusion and disillusion starts when one tries to make something which has been created as balanced to a thing equal! Contrary to popular belief, men and women are not created equal by the All-Wise, All Knowing Lord; but rather, they are balanced! For example: a kilo of apples and a kilo of bananas are balanced in weight, but the two are not equal!

 

For the test period of this one transitory life, each spouse has been given a set of duties and responsibilities by Allah Subhanah best suited according to their bestowed nature. It would not only be unjust, but absolutely incorrect and unfair for a society to treat as equal what the Creator has declared as unequal but balanced! The so called modern-educated but ignorant and un-Godly societies which have tried to challenge and reverse the bestowed nature and declare the men and women as equal rather than balanced have paid an enormous price in the forming of their families, their relationships, their homes, and in their lives!

 

The societies which have propagated the equality amongst the sexes have obviously not understood the nature of the man and the woman like the One Who Created their nature! The Creator has bestowed on the man and the woman balance so that they may complement each other; but the ignorant and un-Godly society insist on making them equal so that they may compete against each other!

 

We will try to the best of our ability to address each of the queries raised by our sister in light of the guidance of the Quran and the Sunnah, Insha Allah:

 

Ref: Challenge-1:

Source: Al Bukhari:
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 64:
Narrated 'Aisha:
that the Prophet married her when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old, and then she remained with him for nine years ( i.e., till his death).

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 90:
Narrated Aisha:
When the Prophet married me, my mother came to me and made me enter the house (of the Prophet) and nothing surprised me but the coming of Allah's Apostle to me in the forenoon.
HUH?

It has indeed been accurately reported that the Messenger of Allah (saws) married Hadrat Aisha (r.a.) when she was 6 years of age, and the marriage was consummated when Hadrat Aisha (r.a.) reached the age of puberty at nine.

 

Whatever the noble Messenger of Allah (saws) did and said, there is a perfect explanation and a valid reason; as everything the Prophet (saws) did and said was done under the direct guidance of the All Knowing, All Wise, Allah Subhanah!

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzab verse 21:

There is indeed the best example for you to follow, in the Messenger of Allah, for every such person looks forward to Allah and the Last Day, and remembers Allah much.

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraat verse 157:

(So, now mercy has been assigned to those) who follow this Messenger, the Gentile Prophet, whose mention they shall find in the Torah and the Gospel with them. He enjoins them to do good and forbids them from evil; he makes pure things lawful for them and impure things unlawful; he relieves them of their burdens and frees them from the shackles (of rites and rituals) that bound them. For this reason, those alone who believe in him, support him, succour him, and follow the Light that has been sent down with him shall attain true success.

 

The life of the Messenger of Allah (saws) is to be an example for the believers until the end of time. Amongst the duties and responsibilities that comes with the appointment of Prophethood is that the Prophet (saws) enjoins what is good and forbid what is evil, he (saws) makes pure things lawful for the believers and impure things unlawful, he (saws) relieves the believers of the burden the society has unlawfully put upon them with their man-made laws, etc.

 

Sometimes the man-made social laws are so established and so overpowering that it is inconceivable for man to go against them; and it is specially in these circumstances that the Prophet (saws) is commanded to lead by example and break the illegal social laws and customs which are established in society, so that there remains absolutely no doubt regarding the lawful and unlawful.

 

If one studies the various marriage of the Messenger of Allah (saws) and the circumstances and conditions in which they were accomplished, one would get a picture of how the example is set by the Messenger of Allah (saws) himself so that there remains no doubt in the minds of the believers after him.

 

The first marriage of Prophet Mohamed (saws) was formalized with Hadrat Khadijah (r.a.), who was a widow and about 15 years older than him. That set an universal and timeless example for the believers until the end of time that it is absolutely legal and permissible for them to marry a woman who is a widow, or to marry a woman who is much older than the man in age. Just compare this with the social custom of some societies where a widow was forced to burn herself in the pyre of her deceased husband, leave alone allowing her to re-marry!

 

Another illegally established man-made social custom and law which was challenged by Islam was the marriage of a man to the divorced wife of his adopted son! In the days of ignorance, when a man adopted a son, all the social laws of inheritance, becoming a mehram, marriage, etc. were levied upon the adopted son exactly as if the son was born from the loins of the man or woman. But Islam made a clear distinction between one who is born from ones loins and one who is adopted; and to break this illegal and established social custom and law, Allah Subhanah commanded the Prophet (saws) to marry the divorced wife of his adopted son, Hadrat Zayd ibn Haritha (r.a.). One can only imagine the chaos, criticism, and ridicule the ignorant amongst the then society would have heaped on this act of the Prophet (saws), whom Allah Subhanah married to Hadrat Zainab (r.a.), the divorced wife of his adopted son, Hadrat Zayd ibn Haritha (r.a.).

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verses 36-39:

36 It is not fitting for a Believer man or woman when a matter has been decided by Allah and His Messenger to have any option about their decision: if anyone disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he is indeed on a clearly wrong Path.

37 Behold! Thou (O Prophet) didst say to one who had received the grace of Allah and thy favor (Zayd): "Retain thou (in wedlock) thy wife (Zainab) and fear Allah." But thou didst hide in thy heart that which Allah was about to make manifest: thou didst fear the people but it is more fitting that thou shouldst fear Allah. Then when Zaid had dissolved (his marriage) with her with the necessary (formality), We joined her in marriage to thee: in order that (in future) there may be no difficulty to the Believers in (the matter of) marriage with the wives of their adopted sons when the latter have dissolved with the necessary (formality) (their marriage) with them: and Allah's command must be fulfilled.

38 There can be no difficulty to the Prophet in what Allah has indicated to him as a duty. It was the practice (approved) of Allah amongst those of old that have passed away and the command of Allah is a decree determined.

39 (It is the practice of those) who preach the Messages of Allah and fear Him and fear none but Allah: and enough is Allah to call (men) to account.

 

Such was the severity of the illegal social impermissibility for a man to marry the divorced wife of his adopted son, that the Messenger of Allah (saws) feared that the disbelievers, who never missed an opportunity to ridicule and challenge his Message, would make a huge hue and cry about this marriage of the Prophet (saws). Such was the social opposition, that Allah Subhanah revealed the above verses of the Quran and Declared that We (Allah) joined her (Zainab) in marriage to thee (O Prophet): in order that (in future) there may be no difficulty to the Believers in (the matter of) marriage with the wives of their adopted sons when the latter have dissolved with the necessary (formality) (their marriage) with them!

 

If some people are unable to understand or comprehend or accept the wisdom behind every deed of the Messenger of Allah (saws); the ignorance and short-coming of wisdom is in the persons mind, not in the deed of the noble Messenger of Allah (saws)!

 

The man-made laws today allows a girl to choose to marry anyone of her choice, only after she reaches a particular age of 18 or 21 or whatever! Who chose this age? What is the wisdom behind choosing this age? Why 18 or 21, why not 25 or 12? Some might say 18 is too young? Some might argue 18 is too old? Some might say this and some might say that? Who has the right to decide?


 

In Islam, the believers have submitted their will to the Will of their Lord in every aspect of their life. Allah is He Who Created the heavens and the earth and everything that exists in between, and He Created everything to Absolute Perfection! There is absolutely no flaw or error in any of His Creation! The same Allah created man, and He it is, Who gave mankind its nature. Thus, He has a bigger right that He Decree what is allowed and prohibited in the life of His creatures. And Allah it is, Who has declared it legal and permissible for a believer to seek a woman in marriage, regardless of her age!

 

One thing to note here is that Allah has not Commanded that the believers must marry women only when they are below the age of puberty; but the Law revealed by the Lord has only held such a marriage as permissible and lawful for those who wish to do so, provided all the obligatory conditions of the prescribed marriage contract are honored.

 

The examples in the marriages of the Messenger of Allah (saws) serve to break the self-imposed restrictions and taboos which the ignorant societies unlawfully force down the throats of mankind.

 

The issue with some people today is that whenever the un-godly world makes a law or regulation, they humbly accept and submit to it! But when Allah and His Messenger (saws) decree a law or regulation, or allow something as lawful and declare something as unlawful, they have a real problem with it!!!!

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 36:

36 It is not fitting for a Believer man or woman, when a matter has been decided by Allah and His Messenger, to have any option about their decision: if anyone disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he is indeed on a clearly wrong Path.

 

Ref: Challenge-2

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 113:

Narrated Abu Huraira:

Allah's Apostle said, "The woman is like a rib; if you try to straighten her, she will break. So if you want to get benefit from her, do so while she still has some crookedness." Ummm.. i tried to think of this one. Who in the world would want to break me?

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 1:

1 O mankind! Reverence your Guardian-Lord Who created you (all) from a single nafs (soul or person), and from it (the nafs) created his mate, and from them twain scattered countless men and women. Reverence Allah through Whom ye demand your mutual (rights), and (reverence) the wombs (that bore you): for Allah ever watches over you.

 

Allah Subhanah declares in the above Aayah of Surah Nisaa (Women) that He created all mankind from a single nafs (soul or person, Prophet Adam (a.s.)), and from the same nafs he created his mate (Hawwa).

 

Beloved sister, the term used by Allah Subhanah is nafs which has been translated by some commentators as soul, and some commentators as person. Regardless of whatever meaning of the term nafs is taken, it clearly means that Allah Subhanah created both the man and the woman from the same nafs, and that both are not from different species but from one and the same.

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.114 Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not hurt (trouble) his neighbor. And I advise you to take care of the women, for they are created from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part; if you try to straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it, it will remain crooked, so I urge you to take care of the women."

 

In the above Hadith, the Messenger of Allah (saws) guided man that women are created from a rib. The parable implied is that just as the rib has a natural turn or bend or crookedness in its nature, the nature of woman is distinct and different from the mans. Just as the rib would break if one tried to change or bend it, the woman too should be accepted, appreciated, and honored with her distinct nature; for if one tries to change or distort the natural nature of the woman she was created in, she would move away from the nature she was created in.

 

The Comment: Ummm.. i tried to think of this one. Who in the world would want to break me?

Respected sister, the issue is not who would try to break an individual woman in personbut rather break the fair nature of the woman she was created in. If one amongst the women sees herself as equal to the other gender, when the Lord Creator has not created the two equal but rather balanced.she herself would be responsible and face the consequences of challenging and breaking her fair nature in which she was created!

 

Ref: Challenge-3

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 121:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet said, "If a man Invites his wife to sleep with him and she refuses to come to him, then the angels send their curses on her till morning.
Seriously? Why would i want to give ANY human being such power over me? Can't i have a headache?


When two individuals who fear Allah and look forward to the Day the lord chose to unite with each other in the sacred bond of marriage, it becomes the obligatory duty of both parties to fulfill the lawful needs of each other.

 

Those individual, women and men, who are blessed to have chosen to marry know that regardless of the minor differences and schisms which normally and naturally surface from time to time in such a close and sacred relationship, the sanctity and the pleasure derived from a conjugal relationship is such that it allows both parties to easily forgive, forget, and overlook the faults of their spouse. Such is the effect of sharing conjugal relations with ones spouse in marriage, that even a declaration of divorce is revoked by this noble act in Shariah Law!

 

Although it is highly unlikely and unnatural for a husband to refuse sexual intercourse when invited by his wife, if the husband too were to refuse the invitation of his wife without any valid reason and causes his wife to sleep in anger, it would be safe to assume that the sin upon him would be the same.

 

Thus my respected sister, the guidance is not meant to determine or evaluate the amount of power one party in marriage holds over another.but rather it works as a deed which irons out the minor differences which might normally and naturally surface in such a close and sacred relationship.

 

Abu Dhar al-Ghafari reported: The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: there is a reward for you [even] in sex with your wife." The companions asked: O Messenger of Allah (saws) is there a reward if one satisfies his passion?" He (saws) said: "Do you know that if he satisfies it unlawfully he has taken a sin upon himself? Likewise, if he satisfies it lawfully, he is rewarded."

Related by Ahmad and Muslim.

 

Ref: Challenge-4

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 126:

Narrated Imran:

The Prophet said, "I looked at Paradise and saw that the majority of its residents were the poor; and I looked at the (Hell) Fire and saw that the majority of its residents were women."
It looks as most of us are doomed. Unless we keep ourselves locked in the house..

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 35:

35 For muslim men and women, for believing men and women, for devout men and women, for true men and women, for men and women who are patient and constant, for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give in charity, for men and women who fast, for men and women who guard their chastity, and for men and women who engage much in Allah's praise; for them has Allah prepared Forgiveness and a Great Reward.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 72:

72 Allah hath promised to believers, men and women, Gardens under which rivers flow to dwell therein and beautiful mansions in gardens of everlasting bliss. But the greatest bliss in the Good Pleasure of Allah: that is the supreme felicity.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 48 Surah Al-Fath verse 5:

5 That He may admit the men and women who believe to Gardens beneath which rivers flow to dwell therein for aye and remove their ills from them; and that is in the Sight of Allah the Highest Achievement

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 57 Surah Hadid verses 11-12:

11 Who is he that will loan to Allah a beautiful Loan? For (Allah) will increase it manifold to his credit and he will have (besides) a liberal reward.

12 One Day shalt thou see the believing men and the believing women how their Light runs forward before them and by their right hands: (their greeting will be): "Good News for you this Day! Gardens beneath which flow rivers! To dwell therein for aye! This is indeed the Highest Achievement!"

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verses 72-73:

72 We did indeed offer the Trust to the Heavens and the Earth and the Mountains: but they refused to undertake it being afraid thereof: but man undertook it he was indeed unjust and foolish.

73 (With the result) that Allah has to punish the hypocrites men and women, and the unbelievers men and women, and Allah turns in Mercy to the believers men and women: for Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale-Imraan verse 195:

195 And their Lord hath accepted of them and answered them: "Never will I suffer to be lost the work of any of you be he male or female: ye are members one of another; those who have left their homes or been driven out therefrom or suffered harm in My Cause or fought or been slain verily I will blot out from them their iniquities and admit them into Gardens with rivers flowing beneath; a reward from the presence of Allah and from His presence is the best of rewards."

 

Dear and Beloved Sister in Islam, rest assured that the All-Wise All-Just Lord does not Judge His creation according to their gender, or color, or race, or nationality, or anything else over which one did not possess any control.but the principle of Justice of the Lord Most Just is based on the beliefs and deeds of each individual, absolutely regardless of their gender or color, etc.! Whosoevers weight of good deeds is heavier in the Supreme Scales of Allah Subhanah will be shown His Forgiveness and Mercy; and whosoevers weight of evil is heavier will deserve the Lords Wrath and Anger.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 103 Surah Al-Qariah verses 6-11:

6 Then he whose balance (of good deeds) will be (found) heavy

7 Will be in a life of good pleasure and satisfaction.

8 But he whose balance (of good deeds) will be (found) light

9 Will have his home in a (bottomless) pit.

10 And what will explain to thee what this is?

11 (It is) a Fire Blazing fiercely!

 

 

My dear and beloved sister in Islam, now to answer your specific question regarding the quoted hadith, whereby the Messenger of Allah (saws) warned that he (saws) was shown Hell Fire and he (saws) saw that the majority of its inhabitants were women.

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.28 Narrated by Ibn Abbas

The Prophet (saws) said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He (saws) replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you!"

 

Although most people have taken this authentic quotation of the Messenger of Allah (saws) and used it against the womenfolk, the truth is that most of them have not truly understood the wisdom behind the wise counsel of the Messenger of Allah (saws) and the depth and reality of the wisdom behind the statement.

 

One can only imagine the importance the Prophet (saws) and Islam lays on the development of peace, tranquility, and harmony in a marriage in Islam. The above statements of the Messenger of Allah (saws) were said when he was addressing the womenfolk, and he (saws) guided them how detestable is their act of constantly complaining and being ungrateful to their husbands in the Sight of Allah, and how this constant complaining and nagging effects the very core of the relationship between a husband and his wife in marriage!

 

There are several ahadeeths of the Messenger of Allah (saws) whereby he warned the men, when his audience were men, regarding the severity and importance of being merciful, kind, charitable, and forgiving towards their wives, and keeping good harmonious relations with their wives in marriage.

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 278 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

The Prophet (saws) said: The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behaviour; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives.

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3252 Narrated by Aisha ; Abdullah ibn Abbas

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family."

 

Sahih Muslim Hadith 3465 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-'As

Allah's Messenger (saws) said: The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman.

 

Sahih Muslim Hadith 3469 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

Allah's Messenger (saws) said: a believing man should not hate a believing woman (his wife); if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another.

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3358 Narrated by AbuBakr as-Siddiq

The Prophet (saws) said, "One who treats badly those under his authority will not enter Paradise."

 

The wisdom behind the statement of the Messenger of Allah (saws) warning the believing woman was not to belittle or demean the role of women, but rather a warning and a guidance to make sure they fulfill their part in developing peace, harmony and tranquility in their marriage; and Allah is our witness sister, nothing is more hurtful to men than to hear these words from their wives after a lifetime of sacrifices that 'I have never received any good from you!"

 

My dear and beloved sister in Islam, I tell you as a man myself, nothing on this planet earth crushes and crumbles the heart of the man to pieces than to hear this one statement from the one whom he has cherished and loved a lifetime!

 

Rest assured my beloved sister, that the men who harm, abuse, oppress, tyrannize, and are unjust to anyone, leave alone their wives, will have to pay retribution in full to the victims of their tyranny in the Majestic Presence of the Lord Most Majestic on that Inevitable Day of Justiceand Allah is our witness sister, not a single soul will be wronged in that Majestic and Tumultuous gathering!

 

Sahih Muslim Hadith 6251 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

Allah's Messenger (saws) asked: Do you know who is a muflis (an absolute and abject pauper)? They (the Companions of the Prophet (saws)) said: A muflis amongst us is one who has neither dirham with him nor wealth. He (the Prophet (saws)) said: The muflis (or absolute pauper) of my Ummah would be he who would come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers and fasts and Zakat but (he would find himself bankrupt on that day as he would have exhausted his funds of virtues) since he hurled abuses upon others, brought calumny against others, unlawfully consumed the wealth of others, shed the blood of others, and beat others, and his virtues would be credited to the account of one (who suffered at his hand). And if his good deeds fall short to clear the account, then his sins would be entered in (his account) and he would be thrown in the Hell-Fire!

 

Although most people who do not fully and truly understand the wisdom behind the statement of the Messenger of Allah (saws) and have taken the words I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful literally, assume that the Hell Fire mentioned in the above hadith refers to the complete expanse and all the inhabitants of the Hell-Fire! The Truth is that just as Paradise has many levels and ranks, the Hell Fire too has many levels and rankseach reserved for its inhabitants according to the level and severity of their deeds!

 

When the Messenger of Allah (saws) relates in truth that the inhabitants of the Hell-Fire he was shown had a majority of women as its inhabitants, it is very probable that he (saws) was warning about only a particular section and level of Hell where those who were constantly ungrateful were held. There are many authentic narrations whereby the Messenger of Allah (saws) was shown and talks about particular sections and levels of the Hell Fire and its inhabitants.

 

In light of the above absolutely clear guidance of the Quran and Sunnah, it is absolutely evident that the Lord Most High does not base His Justice, His Rewards, and His Sentences of Punishments based on ones gender or race or color, etc.; but every soul shall reap the results of only what one had sown in their test period of one life on this earth; and Allah is our witness sister, no one will be wronged in the least in that Majestic and Supreme Presence of their Lord Most High.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 36 Surah Yaseen verses 53-54:

53 It will be no more than a Single Blast when lo! They will all be brought up before Us!

54 Then on that Day not a soul will be wronged in the least, and ye shall but be repaid (in full) the meeds of your past deeds.

 

Ref: Challenge-5:

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 132:

Narrated 'Abdullah bin Zam'a:

The Prophet said, "None of you should flog his wife as he flogs a slave and then have sexual intercourse with her in the last part of the day."

Notice that it doesn't say that none should flog his wife as he does a slave. (period) it says,IF you flog her like a slave , at least have the heart and not sleep with her the same day. wow, indeed, merciful!
In the above quoted narration by you, the Messenger of Allah (saws) Commanded and Guided the believers not to beat or be harsh with their wives.and by saying not to have sexual intercourse with them later in the day, he (saws) merely meant to arouse their sense of guilt, shame, and remorse at the evil and injustice they might have done in their anger so that they may realize their evil and seek forgiveness from their wives and from their All-Knowing, All-Seeing Lord.

 

My beloved and respected sister, it all depends on how one views a glass half-filled with water.some view it as half-empty, while others may view it as half-full!!!

 

If the guidance and the message which you have been able to derive from the above quoted narration is as you have described, perhaps these statements of Truth from Allah and His Messenger (saws) would help in determining the real truth!

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rome verse 21:

21 And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 278 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

The Prophet (saws) said: The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behaviour; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives.

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3252 Narrated by Aisha ; Abdullah ibn Abbas

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family."

 

Sahih Muslim Hadith 3465 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-'As

Allah's Messenger (saws) said: The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman.

 

Sahih Muslim Hadith 3469 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

Allah's Messenger (saws) said: a believing man should not hate a believing woman (his wife); if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another.

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3358 Narrated by AbuBakr as-Siddiq

The Prophet (saws) said, "One who treats badly those under his authority will not enter Paradise."

 

Ref: Challenge-6:

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 137:

Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri:

We got female captives in the war booty and we used to do coitus interruptus with them. So we asked Allah's Apostle about it and he said, "Do you really do that?" repeating the question thrice, "There is no soul that is destined to exist but will come into existence, till the Day of Resurrection."

Now this one you'd say is outdated, right? right? As there's no more slavery. Right?

 

We hereby attach the answer concept of slave-girls from the archive for your perusal.

 

Ref: Challenge-7:

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 142:

Narrated Anas bin Malik:

The Prophet used to pass by (have sexual relation with) all his wives in one night, and at that time he had nine wives.

And the Qur'an clearly states no more than 4... Hmm...

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 3:

3 If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans marry women of your choice two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one or (a captive) that your right hands possess. That will be more suitable to prevent you from doing injustice.

 

It is indeed a historical fact that the Noble Prophet (saws) married a total of eleven times, and he (saws) did have a maximum of nine wives at one time. The above Verse of Surah Nisaa limits and restricts the believers to keep a maximum of upto four wives at any one time, if they wish to do so; but in the case of the Noble Prophet (saws), he (saws) was given special and specific permission by Allah Subhanah to keep the wives he had.

 

Although almost all the laws of Islam that were laid upon the believers were also for the Prophet (saws), there were a few laws which were specific to the Prophet (saws) himself and his family alone due to his (saws) position, and not for the believers at large. Some amongst those laws specific to the Prophet (saws) were:

  1. The Tahajjud or night prayers which are optional for the believers, were fard (obligatory) upon the Prophet (saws).
  2. It was declared forbidden for the Prophet (saws) and his family to accept any funds from the zakah collections.
  3. As shown in the below verses of Surah Ahzaab, the Prophet (saws) was restricted in his choice of women to marry by Allah Subhanah, unlike the believers who are permitted to choose to marry amongst believing women and/or from amongst the chaste women of the People of the Book.
  4. The believers who have more than one wife are commanded by Allah to treat them equally in their allotment of time and resources; but the Prophet (saws) because of his superior position and the duties and responsibilities he had to fulfill as a Prophet (saws), was given a special allowance by Allah Subhanah regarding this command of allocating equal time between his wives.
  5. When a believer dies, his widow has an option to re-marry; but Allah Subhanah specifically prohibited the wives of the Prophet (saws) to marry anyone else after his death.

 

One amongst these commands specific only to the Prophet (saws) was that he (saws) was not restricted to limit the maximum number of wives to four:

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verses 50-52:

50 O prophet! We have made lawful to thee thy wives to whom thou hast paid their dowers; and those whom thy right hand possesses out of the prisoners of war whom Allah has assigned to thee; and daughters of thy paternal uncles and aunts, and daughters of thy maternal uncles and aunts who migrated (from Mecca) with thee; and any believing woman who dedicates her soul to the Prophet if the Prophet wishes to wed her, this only for thee and not for the believers (at large); We know what We have appointed for them as to their wives and the captives whom their right hands possess in order that there should be no difficulty for Thee. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful.

51 Thou (O Prophet (saws)) mayest defer (the turn of) any of them that thou pleasest and thou mayest receive any thou pleasest: and there is no blame on thee if thou invite one whose (turn) thou hadst set aside. This were nigher to the cooling of their eyes the prevention of their grief and their satisfaction--that of all of them--with that which thou hast to give them: and Allah knows (all) that is in your hearts: and Allah is All-Knowing Most Forbearing.

52 It is not lawful for thee (O Prophet (saws) to marry more) women after this nor to change them for (other) wives even though their beauty attract thee except any thy right hand should possess; and Allah doth watch over all things.

 

Ref: Challenge-8:

And here's another one. Read it carefully:

Volume 3, Book 45, Number 687:

Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah:

Allah's Apostle said, "Who would kill Ka'b bin Al-Ashraf as he has harmed Allah and His Apostle ?" Muhammad bin Maslama (got up and) said, "I will kill him." So, Muhammad bin Maslama went to Ka'b and said, "I want a loan of one or two Wasqs of food grains." Ka'b said, "Mortgage your women to me." Muhammad bin Maslama said, "How can we mortgage our women, and you are the most handsome among the Arabs?" He said, "Then mortgage your sons to me." Muhammad said, "How can we mortgage our sons, as the people will abuse them for being mortgaged for one or two Wasqs of food grains? It is shameful for us. But we will mortgage our arms to you." So, Muhammad bin Maslama promised him that he would come to him next time. They (Muhammad bin Maslama and his companions came to him as promised and murdered him. Then they went to the Prophet and told him about it.


So when i say i will pick and choose using my intelligence i mean drop the barbaric customs and keep the ones that have to do with belief and being a good person, not someone's property that can be mortgaged.

 

My respected sister in Islam, maybe its time you Read it carefully.......the demand to mortgage the women was not made by the noble companion Muhammad ibn Maslama.but rather by the evil and arrogant enemy of Allah and His Messenger (saws) Kaab ibn Al-Ashraf!!!!

 

In conclusion my beloved and respected sister in Islam, if ones fine-tooth-comb search is merely to seek out errors, flaws, mistakes and falsehoods in the pure and perfect guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws) then that person should know that it is absolutely and categorically inevitable that at length (may happen in this world.will definitely happen in the Hereafter).that at length they themselves will be left with no choice but to admit that the falsehood was in their own hearts and minds rather than in the guidance of the Lord and His Messenger (saws)!

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 67 Surah Mulk verses 1-4:

1 Blessed be He in Whose hands is The Dominion: and He over all things Hath Power

2 He Who created death and life that He may try which of you is best in deed: and He is the Exalted in Might Oft-Forgiving

3 He Who created the seven heavens one above another; no want of proportion wilt thou see in the Creation of (Allah) Most Gracious so turn thy vision again: Seest thou any flaw?

4 Again turn thy vision a second time; (thy) vision will come back to thee dull and discomfited in a state worn out!

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 22 Surah Hajj verses 1-4:

1 O mankind! Fear your Lord! For the convulsion of the Hour (of Judgment) will be a thing terrible!

2 The Day ye shall see it every mother giving suck shall forget her suckling-babe; and every pregnant female shall drop her load (unformed); thou shalt see mankind as in a drunken riot, yet not drunk: but dreadful will be the Wrath of Allah!

3 And yet among men there are such as dispute about Allah without knowledge and follow every evil one obstinate in rebellion!

4 About the (Shaytaan) it is Decreed that whoever turns to him for friendship; him will he lead astray, and he will guide him to the Penalty of the Fire!

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 36:

It does not behove a believing man and a believing woman that when Allah and His Messenger have given their decision in a matter, they should exercise an option in that matter of theirs. For whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, has indeed strayed into manifest error.

 

If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan


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