Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

I need to know some thing , my parents and my relative pushed me to get married in side family, now i have 2 beautiful daughters and the women i am married she is most nicest person in this world , i do respect her a lot but i cant love her from last 2 years,

I know some one from last so many years who i liked but due to my parents i could not married her just not upset them and do every thing according islam and sunnah, but now i love the other femail

could you please tell me what should i do , i have told this lady to leave me because i dont want to distroy her life as am alredy married

but i realy miss her and i am lost

(There may be some grammatical and spelling errors in the above statement. The forum does not change anything from questions, comments and statements received from our readers for circulation in confidentiality.)

Answer:

Married and love another

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2189 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘There are three things which, whether undertaken seriously or in jest, are treated as serious: Marriage, divorce and taking back a wife (after a divorce which is not final).’

Respected brother in Islam, absolutely regardless of the reasons or conditions that preceded the marriage, as long as you agreed to unite with your wife in the sacred bond of marriage, and as long as you remain married to her, you should fear Allah your Lord, and make absolutely sure that you fulfill all the rights that are due to her in the marriage.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chatper 4 Surah Nisaa verse 3:

3 If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans marry women of your choice two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one or (a captive) that your right hands possess. That will be more suitable to prevent you from doing injustice.

If you have taken a liking to another woman for any reason whatsoever, you have three lawful options in Islam:

1. Islam has given the option to the believers to marry and keep upto a maximum of four wives at any one time; thus you could legally keep your first wife and marry the woman you like as your second wife, making absolutely sure that you treat both your wives with justice and equality.
2. You could divorce your first wife and marry the other woman.
3. If you fear that if you had two wives you would not be able to do justice between them, and you do not wish to divorce your first wife for any reason whatsoever….. then it would only be piety and righteousness on your part that you clearly and firmly distance yourself from the other woman.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan