I want to do nikka with a girl. can we go to kazi and get married.
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
(May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked
this question:
i want
to do nikka with a girl. can we go to kazi and get married. will the kazi
insist to bring our parents, and let know the world about our marriage. we dont
want to disclose it now we want to disclose it after 2 yrs. i want minimum
people to be present in the nikka ( not my relatives). what will kazi do? will
he read nikka our enquire about our parents?
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Answer:
Secret Nikaah
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah
Maidah verse 5:
5 …. (Lawful unto you in
marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers but chaste women among
the People of the Book revealed before your time when ye give them their due
dowers and desire chastity, not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work
and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all
spiritual good).
Beloved Brother, the guidance of Islam Commands and
Demands that the believers marry desiring chastity, not lewdness and secret
intrigues! It is only those who are
inclined towards the heinous and abomination of the evil of ‘zina’ who develop
lewd and secret intrigues; for the sacred institution of marriage in Islam is a
public affair whereby one is guided and commanded to openly declare one’s
sacred association of marriage to the society one lives in by offering the
‘walima’ or marriage banquet or feast.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.395 Narrated by Anas
The Prophet (saws) seeing a yellow mark (of
perfume) on the clothes of 'Abdur-Rahman bin 'Auf, said, "What about
you?" 'Abdur-Rahman replied,
"I have married a woman with a Mahr of gold equal to a date-stone."
The Prophet (saws) said, "May Allah bestow His Blessing on you (in your
marriage). Give a wedding banquet, (Walima) even with one sheep."
For a ‘marriage’ or ‘nikaah’ to be lawful and acceptable in
the Sight of Shariah Law and of Allah Subhanah, the following four absolutely
obligatory conditions of an Islamic ‘nikaah’ have to fulfilled:
- Proposal
by one party and acceptance by the other.
- The
determination of ‘mehr’ for the bride.
- The
availability of at least two witnesses to the marriage contract.
- The
consent of the parents/guardians of the bride to the marriage contract.
Your
Question: …..what will kazi do? will he read nikka our enquire about our
parents?
A good, pious, God-fearing ‘Qaadhi’ should indeed insist
on making sure all the obligatory requirements of an Islamic ‘Nikaah’ are
honorably fulfilled. If the ‘Qaadhi’
conspires with the people and helps them to arrange their ‘secret wedding’, he
would be in violation of the Laws of Allah Subhanah and will hold his
appropriate share of the burden of the blame and sin in the Court of The Lord
Most Majestic.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister