Last time i told you teena is my wife and recently converted to islam so please answer all her queries which she put across you so that she can feel contented and Allah accept her in islam.
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Dear Burhan bhai,
Trust you are doing fine.I am dishearted after not seeing my reply or any mail from your side.Last time i told you teena is my wife and recently converted to islam so please answer all her queries which she put across you so that she can feel contented and Allah accept her in islam.
well, bhai can you tell me who was Maria and how she was related to prophet muhammad(Pbuh)?Recently one of my non-muslim colleague has asked this question and was telling me she was Prophet muhammad(Pbuh) kept.May Allah forgive his sin as i am over sure about our prophet who was blessing for the mankind.I was embarrased as i have no answer.
Your response will be highly appreciated!
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Slave girls and maria kibtiya
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
There is a slight difference of opinion amongst the historians and the scholars in Islam whether or not Hadrat Maria Kibtiyah (r.a.) was married with the Noble Prophet Mohamed (saws) through the institution of nikaah or was she amongst those lawful women whom ones right hand possess or what is normally known as a slave girl.
The vast majority of the historians in Islam are of the opinion that the Noble Prophet (saws) married eleven women through the institution of nikaah; and had two additional lawful slave-girls, namely Hadrat Maria (r.a.) and Hadrat Rehanah (r.a.), both of whom although not married to the Prophet (saws) through nikaah were treated by the Prophet (saws) and the believers with the same awe and respect that was deserving of all the Prophets (saws) noble and chaste wives.
Please allow us to clarify the concept of slaves and slave-girls in Islam:
Whenever the term whom thy right hand possesses is used in the Glorious Quran it refer to the slave girls who were captured as prisoners of war in the various battles that took place.
Since time immemorial, slavery was an accepted practice; thus it was not Islam that started this practice, but rather Islam was the first system to inculcate the freedom of slaves and take steps to make them equal citizens of society. Slavery was abolished in modern society only a couple of centuries ago, and was openly practiced in almost all parts of the civilized world even until the early 1900s. But Islam made it a virtue to free slaves, and inculcate them into society as equal citizens, almost 1400 years ago!
So, how did people (men and women) become slaves?
There were several ways in earlier times how a free person would become a slave.
The already existent slaves and their offspring were also considered slaves.
People used to steal children and then sell them as slaves in another place.
One tribe would attack another tribe, kill the men, and take the women and children as slaves and then sell them as war-booty.
This practice was prevalent all over the world at the times, thus we must remember that Islam neither started it, nor encouraged it. Islam, in fact closed almost all the doors on how a free man becomes a slave, and in reality opened all the doors to free these slaves and make them responsible members in society. Islam was instrumental in eradicating slavery and made it a virtue and a means of reward from Allah to free slaves and inculcate them into society.
The Messenger of Allah (saws) declared it a sin to kidnap any free man, woman or child and make them slaves. After the wars, the Prophet (saws) used to exchange the Prisoners of War if both the warring parties agreed to it. If not, the captives were set free by taking a ransom for them. If the slaves or their families could not afford the ransom, most times the Prophet (saws) showed generosity and released them without any ransom. Only if none of the above were possible, and the captives had no place to return to, then these captives were made slaves and all efforts were taken to inculcate them into the existing Islamic Society.
In some instances, when the enemy was still at war, there was always a fear that if the Prisoners of War were released, they would go back and join their armies and attack the muslims again. During these times, the Messenger of Allah (saws) allowed the prisoners to be taken as slaves as was the prevalent system of the times. Rather than put them in jail, the slaves were distributed to each household and they were responsible for the welfare of the slaves. The Messenger of Allah (saws) exhorted the believers to feed them what they ate themselves, and dress them in the clothes that they themselves dressed.
Thus, there arose a issue with the women who were captured as Prisoners of War, and were not exchanged, nor ransomed, nor had any place to return to. Most times the wars were with tribes, and whoever won these wars, the losing tribes were completely annihilated. Thus there was no place to send the Prisoners of War back to, and it became imperative that these people were inculcated within the society. Thus there were two choices left with the slave girls:
Leave them alone in society with no family and no protection.
Give them under the guardianship and protection of an existing family.
Option-1. Leave them alone in society with no family and no protection.
This would not have been a good option. There was obviously a fear that these women, who had absolutely no family and tribe to protect or feed them, would start immoral practices if left to fend for themselves. And because no one could determine their lineage, no honorable person at that time would marry them outright. And also it would not be right to just leave these women, who had absolutely no means, no family, and no protection in a foreign land.
Option-2. Give them under the guardianship of an existing family.
The state would determine which slave girl goes to which household. Neither the people who received the slave girl, nor the slave girl had a choice. Whatever was allotted by the state was received by them. This was considered the best and novel system to eradicate slavery and accept the slaves as members of society. We must not try to imagine this system of distribution and acceptance in todays society, but rather 1400 years at the time of the Prophet (saws). The training and discipline of the noble companions of the Prophet (saws), and the true Islamic society which was created in light of the Holy Quran and the guidance of the Messenger of Allah (saws) must be kept in view to get a full picture of the condition of the times.
Question: What is a slave girl?
The slave girl that was allotted by the state to the respective household, thus became the consort of one member of the household. Only this person was allowed to have a sexual relationship with this slave girl. The difference between this persons wife and the slave girl was that his wife came into his house through the proper marriage contract (Nikaah), and the slave girl was allotted by the state.
Question: What is their status in a mans life, esp a married persons life?
The status was like his wife. Only the person who was allotted the slave girl was allowed to have a sexual relationship with her. If the slave girl was allotted to the father, then the brothers or the sons had absolutely no right towards this girl. The other difference was that the Islamic law of equality of time and sustenance did not apply between the wives and the slave girl.
Question: What is the status of the offsprings of this relationship-- to the man, in their lives, wealth and will etc?
The children were exactly like the other children from the persons legally wedded wife. They were to be given exactly the same rights as his other children. The children of the slave girl would inherit the property exactly as the other children. There was absolutely no difference amongst the children. And once any slave girl bore a child, she could not be sold to anybody else and thus became a permanent member of the household.
Question: Does she have to be a muslima, or the religion in this relationship is not of concern?
No, this slave girl did not have to be a muslima. In fact, all the wars fought were between the muslims and the non-believers, thus most of these slave girls were non-muslims. But through this system of allocation, this woman was encompassed into Islamic society, and because of the behavior and character of the muslims of the times, the woman, more often than not, would accept Islam.
Question: How is this any different from the modern days concept of mistress/prostitution/adultery?
There is a huge difference between the slave girls of those times and the system of prostitution which is so prevalent as a disease in todays society.
The slave girl was a social issue of the times, which if not solved by Islam would give rise to adultery and prostitution.
In prostitution, the woman sells here services for a fee to anyone who is willing to pay! The slave girl was taken into a household as a full member.
In prostitution, the woman has sexual relationships with many men! The slave girl would have sexual relations only with the person she was given to; very similar to the husband-wife relationship, the only difference being that the wife came into the house through a marriage contract, and the slave girl was allotted to the person by the state.
Prostitution is a result of illegal lust, and is a huge sin in the eyes of Allah. The allocation of slave girls was a issue of the times to envelope the woman taken as slaves in a war into the Islamic society.
Prostitution and adultery do not have any responsibility attached to it! The man-woman have a one-off relationship and depart. The slave girls were a responsibility of the person, who spent on them, gave them a place to live, fed them, clothed them, and raised their children as his children.
The children from adultery and prostitution are regarded as born out of wedlock and grow up without the name and without the shadow of a father. The children of the slave girls were known as the children of the person, grew up with his other children, and had exactly the same rights and inheritance as the other offspring.
The system of slave girls was accepted and respected by the Islamic society of the times. The slave girl was treated like his wife, and the children from these slave girls were treated like their children by society.
No religion, no state, no moral society accepts and respects the institutions of prostitution and adultery. This is a disease of society and every moral society has tried to eradicate this disease with little success.
Again, I reiterate
that this system of slaves was not started by Islam, but was prevalent in the society in those
times. Islam tried to encompass the
slaves into Islamic society and gave them the respect and honor of being equal
members and citizens of society. Almost
all the doors and ways of creating new slaves were closed, and several options were created to free
these slaves and entwine them into the Islamic society. It was considered a virtue in Islam to free
slaves and a means of great reward from Allah Subhanah. Islam created a society whereby the compensation
for repentance for many sins like murder,
breaking of promises, missing of
fasts, etc. was the freeing of
slaves. In this way, Islam created an environment whereby slaves
were made free and allowed to inculcate themselves into the normal Islamic
society. We must be careful not to look
into this slave-girls issue in isolation,
but rather look at the whole picture of the Islamic society at the time
of the Messenger of Allah (saws). The
training, the discipline, the character, and the morals of the noble companions was a
direct result of their association and teachings and guidance of the Prophet
(saws) himself. The values and degree
of Taqwa (God consciousness) and the love for the promised
The main difference between a free woman whom one married, and the slave girls was that one would choose and propose marriage to a free woman, and the free woman had a right to accept or refuse the proposal. The slave girl on the other hand was assigned by the Islamic State under the care of a particular individual, regardless of whether she agreed or not.
We reiterate once again that the concept of slaves or slave-girls was not started by Islam, but slavery was practiced by man since time immemorial. Islam was the first system which started the inculcation of slaves into mainstream society in the most honorable and effective manner.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
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