Our marriage is fixed in august this year by our parents are happy with the marriage. but myself and my fiancee wants to get marry as soon as we can and we requested our parents to perform our marriage as soon as they can but for some reasons they are unable to do so.
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As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
(May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
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this question:
our
marriage is fixed in august this year by our parents are happy with the
marriage. but myself and my fiancee wants to get marry as soon as we can and we
requested our parents to perform our marriage as soon as they can but for some
reasons they are unable to do so. we want to protect us from bodily sins coz it
is really difficult to keep both of us apart ie we want to marry early.my
question is can we perform nikah secretly now and marry again in august. plz
help me(in other terms can a man marry same woman twice without giving divorce
to her)
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Answer:
Marry secret
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Allah
Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5:
5 …. (Lawful unto you in
marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers but chaste women among
the People of the Book revealed before your time when ye give them their due
dowers and desire chastity, not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work
and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all
spiritual good).
Beloved Brother, the guidance of Islam Commands and
Demands that the believers marry desiring chastity, not lewdness and secret
intrigues! It is only those who are
inclined towards the heinous and abomination of the evil of ‘zina’ who develop
lewd and secret intrigues; for the sacred institution of marriage in Islam is a
public affair whereby one is guided and commanded to openly declare one’s
sacred association of marriage to the society one lives in by offering the
‘walima’ or marriage banquet or feast.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.395 Narrated by Anas
The Prophet (saws) seeing a yellow mark (of
perfume) on the clothes of 'Abdur-Rahman bin 'Auf, said, "What about
you?" 'Abdur-Rahman replied,
"I have married a woman with a Mahr of gold equal to a date-stone."
The Prophet (saws) said, "May Allah bestow His Blessing on you (in your
marriage). Give a wedding banquet, (Walima) even with one sheep."
To marry ‘secretly’ is to make a mockery of the sacred
rite of marriage in the Sight of Allah Subhanah; and to perform the ‘nikaah’
with the same woman again only to hide their first ‘secret’ marriage is to add
to the mockery one has already made of the Laws of Allah Subhanah!
Dear and beloved brother, if you and your fiancé wish to
marry immediately and for whatever reason your or your fiancés parents wish to
delay the marriage….you are well within your rights to request and beseech your
parents to allow you to perform your ‘nikaah’ with your fiancé as soon as
possible and do the ‘rukhsati’ at a later date of everyone’s convenience, a
process which is absolutely acceptable and lawful in Shariah. The ‘nikaah’ would bind you and your fiancé
in the sacred bond of marriage and everything that is lawful for a married
couple would be absolutely lawful unto you.
As your brothers and sincere well-wishers in faith, we
implore you to fear Allah and whatever happens, do not take a route or path of
the ‘secret’ marriage thus making a complete mockery of the Laws of Allah
Subhanah.
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and
commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws),
one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any
other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be
assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan