I am married and staying away from my wife (who is in india). n right now i m not capable to call her here for staying together.
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i am working in your company. i need to know some thing regarding beared. in islam every muslim brother must have beared(Dadhi if i am mispleling ?). so please tell me is ti cumpulsory to have beared,i think it is sunnate muqqadda. please confirm, n also tell one more thing. i am married and staying away from my wife (who is in
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Beard and time staying away from wife
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Your Question: .so please tell me is ti cumpulsory to have beared,
Growing a beard was considered normal and natural for a man at the time of the Messenger of Allah (saws), whether he was a believer or not. Even the enemies of Islam like Abu Jahl and Abu Lahb had beards! And because every man naturally grew a beard, it was not necessary for the Prophet (saws) to give an explicit command exhorting the believers to grow a beard.
The only specific saying of the Prophet (saws) regarding the keeping of beards arose when he saw that the pagans used to grow both their beards and their mustaches long; thus he (saws) said to the believers:
Ibn 'Umar related that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said: "Differ from the polytheists: let your beards (grow), and trim your moustache."
Related by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
It was only a couple of centuries ago, when the western culture and ideology became dominant over the world and muslim lands, that it became a fashion to be clean shaven. And as with any dominant culture, people are always ready to adopt its actions, whether they are of virtue, or of vice! But Islam has its own culture, and growing a beard is part of the Islamic culture.
The question is why should a believer, who professes to believe in Allah and the Last Day, and who professes to follow the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws), want to grow a beard?
The answer is simple. Today, you
might have seen many youngsters copy the fashion of sport-stars,
Hollywood-stars or anybody else whom they love. If you notice today, many hot
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzab verse 21:
There is indeed the best example for you in the Messenger of Allah, for every such person looks forward to Allah and the Last Day, and remember Allah much.
In another narration, the Prophet of Allah said in narrating a prophecy of times to come:
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 9.651 Narrated by Abu Said Al Khudri
The Prophet (saws) said: There will emerge from the East some people who will recite the Quran, but it will not exceed their throats, and who will go out of the deen of Islam as an arrow passes through the game. They will never come back to it unless the arrow comes back to the middle of the bow by itself (i.e. impossible!). The companions asked, "What will their signs be?". The Prophet (saws) said: "Their sign will be the habit of shaving off of their beards".
Thus the keeping of beards is an absolutely encouraged and preferred Sunnah of the Prophet (saws) and every muslim male must strive to keep a beard, if his model and example is indeed the Prophet of Allah (saws). He will get his due reward from Allah, Insha Allah, if he keeps the beard to follow the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws).
But if a believer does not want to sport a beard for whatever reason, the other believers should not make a big issue out of it. What is important in Islam and in the Sight of Allah, is that one truly believes and does good righteous deeds according to the guidance of the Quran and the Sunnah. And when that happens, it is expected that the beard will follow soon after!
The beard is nothing more than a sign that the believer truly wants to follow a Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws). There are many people who have long beards, but do deeds against the commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws). And there are many people who are amongst the best believers, but do not have lengthy beards! Allah will not decide the recipient of His Mercy and His Forgiveness from the appearance of the individual; but rather He will decide whether the person believed and did righteous good deeds as commanded by Allah and His Messenger (saws).
Your Question: .as i m away from my wife since al most 8 months, is my nikah may haram.
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, rest absolutely assured that the one and only thing which breaks ones lawful nikaah is the institution of divorce! There is absolutely no restriction or stipulation in Shariah Law which specifies the minimum or maximum time a husband is allowed to live away from ones wife. If one is working or traveling away from ones home, and ones wife is aware that her husband is away on travel and will return; regardless of the amount the time the husband is away from his wife, their this separation has absolutely no effect on the validity of their marriage or on their relationship as husband and wife.
But if ones spouse is deemed lost, whereby neither has he returned from his travel for a prolonged period of time, nor is there any information about his whereabouts, and the wife fears that her husband is lost or dead; she is well within her rights to approach a Shariah Court and initiate a divorce proceedings against her lost husband, so that she may free herself from her current marriage and seek to marry another.
If one has chosen to working overseas or away from their wife and family, and their wife or their family or their society are well aware that one has traveled overseas to work and will return, and they are well aware of the persons whereabouts whereby there is absolutely no fear that he is lost, dead, etc.; this kind of separation from ones wife, regardless of the time elapsed, has absolutely no effect on the validity of their marriage or their relations with their wife in Shariah Law.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,