I want to know whether a married women should obey each and every comman of Husband whether it migh be lawful or Unlawful.
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I want to know whether a married women should obey each and every comman of Husband whether it migh be lawful or Unlawful. In my home town my neighbour used to torture his wife, and after a couple of years unable to tolearte the torture she left his house and went to her parents house. Now he is commanding her to come back home, and she is refusing to come, what should she do?
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Obey husband unconditionally
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Your Question: I want to know whether a married women should obey each and every comman of Husband whether it migh be lawful or Unlawful.
The guidance of Islam Demands that unconditional obedience is due from the believers only and we reiterate only to Allah Subhanah and His Messenger (saws) alone.
There is absolutely none other in creation, no parents, no husband, no king, no ruler, nobody.absolutely nobody who has the right to demand or be given unconditional obedience!
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3696 Narrated by An-Nawwas ibn Sam'an
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the Creator."
The usool or principle in Islam is that no command or order of any in creation will be followed if its obedience involves the disobedience of the Creator; regardless of whether that command was made by ones parents, or ones husband, or the king or ruler of the land, etc.
If ones husband (or anyone in creation) were to order or command his wife to do (or abstain from doing) something which is against the Commands and Guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws); then the wife should not obey that specific command of her husband..but in all other matters, she should fulfill all her lawful duties unto him.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chatper 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34:
34 Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more than the other and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to her husband) and guards in (her husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard (their chastity, their honor, their husbands property, etc.)
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3272 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
When Allah's Messenger (saws) was asked which woman was best, he (saws) replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a (lawful) command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves."
Your Question: In my home town my neighbour used to torture his wife, and after a couple of years unable to tolearte the torture she left his house and went to her parents house. Now he is commanding her to come back home, and she is refusing to come, what should she do?
A wife is well within her rights in Islam to seek a permanent separation and freedom from her impious and tyrant husband through divorce; and in such a situation there will be absolutely no blame or sin upon her.
She may either ask the husband to pronounce a divorce upon
her, and if her husband does not heed to her request, she is well within her
rights in Islam to initiate divorce proceedings against her husband in a
Shariah Court of Law. If the Judge of
the Shariah Court of Law is convinced that the woman is indeed bent on divorce,
he will summon the husband to the Court and ask him to pronounce a divorce unto
his wife. If for any reason the husband
were to refuse, the Judge of the
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Your brother and well wisher in Islam,