I am married muslim girl, my husband cares for me.
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As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
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I am married muslim girl, my husband cares for me but his past is a biggest threat to our relation, he cheated on me, he had a very deep relation with someone after marriage. I have forgiven him but most of the time its in my mind and I cannot offer him my best. Pls Help me...
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Forgive husbands past
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Dear and beloved Sister in Islam, if you feel that your husband is truly and sincerely repentant over his manifest transgression of the Boundaries of Allah Subhanah by developing an unlawful extra-marital relationship out of marriage.realizes the grave injustice he has done to you in your marriage, realizes the enormity of his sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah and is sincerely repentant..and you can bring yourself to give him another chance by forgiving him the injustice he has done towards you.not only would such a decision be a means of earning rewards for you from Allah Subhanah, but it would save your marriage.
Just as one wishes for themselves that Allah Subhanah may forgive them their sins, Allah Subhanah guides the believers to forgive and overlook the faults of their near and close relatives.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verse 22:
22 ..let them forgive and overlook: do you not wish that Allah should forgive you? For Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful.
But if you feel that your husband is unrepentant at his manifest transgression, and there are chances that given a chance he may do the same again..or if you cannot bring yourself to forgive him for his betrayal to your rights in your marriage.you are well within your rights to seek a divorce from him, and there would be neither blame nor sin upon you.
Dear and beloved Sister in Islam, as difficult as it may be for a wife to forgive the betrayal of her husband in the past..the guidance of Islam dictates that either you absolutely bring yourself to forgive him and fulfill unto him all his due rights in marriage; and if you cannot bring yourself to do that, seek a divorce and separate yourself from him. But to constantly doubt his every move or word, or to constantly hold him guilty for his past sin even after he has repented, or to deny him his due rights in the marriage, etc. would severely affect the marital relationship that is expected from the pious and God-fearing believers in marriage.
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,