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I never had sexual intercourse with my wife in the whole married life as she's a bit too feared about this.

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Assalamualaikkum brother Burhan

 

First of all I request confidentiality about my name and other details, I'm married for the last 11 months, I never had sexual intercourse with my wife in the whole married life as she's a bit too feared about this. We consulted with a couple of doctors and they advised things will be smooth as the time goes. She's interested in all these and aware of that it's not a sin between hus n wife. also she knows it's a sin, to forbid something, which is allowed by the almighty.

 

Now i need your advise, is there anything wrong in waiting to have intercourse until she's prepared for that herself. or do i have to force her, what the scholars say. I know it's not to be disclosed about the relation between a hus n wife, but here I'm seeking a scholar's advice only.

 

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Force sex with wife

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Your Question: Now i need your advise, is there anything wrong in waiting to have intercourse until she's prepared for that herself.

When a man and a woman enter into the sacred bond of marriage, both of them have due rights one from another; and one amongst the prime rights in a marriage is the fulfillment of one’s natural physical desire with one’s legally married spouse.

 

If one marries a woman who is not fulfilling his rights, the husband is well within his rights to divorce his wife. But if the wife has a genuine medical reason for not fulfilling the lawful rights of her husband in marriage, there is absolutely no harm if the husband wishes to wait for some time until his wife recovers, displays patience, and thus save the marriage.

 

If one is faced with a situation where one has to force one’s wife to enjoy conjugal relations with her, it would be best to divorce such a wife and seek to marry a woman who would fulfill his lawful rights.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

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Burhan


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