I wanted to ask is that even for a mother it's not permittable to visit graveyard
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My younger brother died fifteen days ago in a tragic accident.What i wanted to ask is that even for a mother it's not permittable to visit graveyard because my mother keeps on insisting that she wants to go to the grave of my brother.
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Mother visit graveyards
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Your Question: What i wanted to ask is that even for a mother it's not permittable to visit graveyard because my mother keeps on insisting that she wants to go to the grave of my brother.
There is absolutely no harm in Islam if a believing woman wishes to occasionally visit the graves of her loved ones.
Hadrat Abdallah ibn Abi Mulaikah (r.a.) said, "Once Aishah (the wife of the Prophet (saws)) returned after visiting the graveyard. I asked, 'O Mother of the Believers, where have you been?' She said: 'I went out to visit the grave of my brother Abd ar-Rahman.' I asked her: 'Didn't the Messenger of Allah (saws) prohibit visiting graves?' She said, 'Yes, he did forbid visiting graves during the early days (of Islam), but later on he ordered us to visit them'."
Related by Al-Hakim and Al-Baihaqi.
The purpose of visiting graves is to remember the Hereafter, which is something that both men and women need. Men are by no means more in need of this reminder than women. Thus provided the woman does not violate the rights of her husband, or her duties towards her house and her children, and she does not violate any of the guidelines of Shariah in her dressing and adornment and speech, there is absolutely no harm if the believing woman occasionally visits the graveyards, if she wishes to do so.
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: , "May Allah curse the women who are frequent visitors of the graves."
Related by Ahmad and Tirmidhi.
Al-Qurtubi explains the implications of the above hadith: "The curse mentioned in this hadith applies only to those women who visit graves frequently. The reason for this curse lies perhaps in the fact that it involves infringement of the rights of the husband, and leads to adornment and exhibition of their beauty to strangers, and shouting, yelling, and other similar things." It may be said that, "If no such harm is feared from women visiting graves, then there is no valid reason for preventing them from visiting graves, for indeed remembrance of death is something that both men and women equally need."
Most of the scholars in Islam hold it permissible for the believing women to visit the graves occasionally, if she wishes to do so; but hold it forbidden for the women to visit the graves frequently as stated by the Messenger of Allah (saws).
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