Is it okay to have a relationship (non sexual) w/ a non-muslim girl in order to give her dawa?
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is it okay to have a relationship (non sexual) w/ a non-muslim girl in order to give her dawa?
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Non sexual relationship with girl
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Dear and beloved brother in Islam, contrary to the popularly held absolutely false belief, Islam declares that there can never be a platonic or non-sexual relationship between two non-mehram members of the opposite sex.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3118 Narrated by Umar ibn al-Khattab
The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a (non-mehram) woman, the Shaytaan makes the third."
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, it is absolutely impermissible and forbidden for a believer who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day to develop any relationship or bond with a non-mehram woman except the sacred bond of marriage.
If the non-muslim girl seeks to learn or understand anything about Islam, it would be purer and closer to piety and righteousness that you arrange for her to meet a good pious and knowledgeable believing sister, who will be able to better able to address her questions and guide her to the Truth.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.254 Narrated byAli bin Al Husain (from Safiya, the Prophets (saws) wife)
The Prophet (saws) said: "The Shaytaan circulates in the human being as blood circulates in the body!
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, as good and as noble your intentions might be, the Shaytaan is ever on the look-out to tempt and invite the believers towards disobedience and transgression of the laws of Allah Subhanah..and if Allah forbid, if at your weakest moment, anything untoward were to take place, you would stand to risk inviting the Wrath and Anger of the Lord Most Majestic and risk losing your whole Hereafter!
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,