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is phone sex and cyber sex a sin, and wat is the gunah of this sin 

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Answer:

Phone and Cyber sex

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His  forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

The ‘usool’ or ‘accepted condition’ in Islam is that if something is declared haraam by Allah and His Messenger (saws); all the roads that lead to that evil are also deemed forbidden.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:Do not even go near ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way!

Allah Subhanah commands the believers to “not even go near ‘zina’”, and phone sex and cyber sex are paths that lead a person to the evil and grave sin of ‘zina’; thus the believers, who sincerely fear Allah and the Last Day, must abstain from it.

Although the sin of phone sex, cyber sex, etc. is not the same as compared to the actual act of ‘zina’, it is nevertheless a manifestation of ‘fahesha’ or indecency; and one will have to give a severe accounting for these sins in the Court of Allah Subhanah on an Inevitable Day.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 43 Surah Haa Meem verses 20-21:

20 At length when they reach the (Fire) their hearing, their sight, and their skins will bear witness against them as to (all) their deeds.

21 They will say to their skins: "Why bear ye witness against us?" They will say: "Allah hath given us speech, (He) Who giveth speech to everything: He created you for the first time and unto Him were ye to return.”

22 "Ye did not seek to hide yourselves lest your hearing, your sight, and your skins should bear witness against you! But ye did think that Allah knew not many of the things that ye used to do!

23 But this thought of yours which ye did entertain concerning your Lord hath brought you to destruction, and (now) have ye become of those utterly lost!"

In the above aayah, Allah Subhanah warns the evil doers that on the Day of Judgement, He will give the power of speech to the eyes, and ears, and all the limbs of man, so that they may bear witness to the evil deeds the person did! Phone sex is the ‘zina’ of the ears, and Cyber sex is the zina of the eyes and ears; and the believers, who sincerely fear Allah and the Last Day, must abstain from these evil deeds. Every deed a man does, good or bad, is being recorded in his ‘Book of Deeds’, and he will be shown each and every deed he did in the world on that Inevitable Day!

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 99 Surah Zalzalah verses 6-8:

6 On that Day will men proceed in companies sorted out, to be shown the Deeds that they (had done).

7 Then shall anyone who has done an atom's weight of good, shall see it!

8 And anyone who has done an atom's weight of evil, shall see it.

‘Fahesha’ or indecency is one of the strongest weapons of the accursed enemy of man, the Shaitaan; who has sworn to mislead and misguide mankind from the Straight Path of Allah Subhanah.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 268: The Shaitaan threatens you with poverty and prompts you to adopt indecency (or acts of shamelessness). Allah promiseth you His forgiveness and bounties, and Allah careth for all, and He knoweth all things.

The only thing that can stop one from acts of indecency, or intentionally disobeying any command of Allah and His Messenger (saws); is the fear and consciousness that One Day, everyone will be brought forth in the Presence of the All-Mighty Lord to give a full accounting of one’s deeds.

The first thing one needs to do, when he realizes that he has disobeyed any command of Allah and His Messenger (saws), is to immediately turn to the Merciful Lord and seek His Forgiveness and Pardon, and make a solemn covenant that he will not repeat the mistake again. When Shaitaan again tries to prompt the person to disobey the Merciful, the believers must immediately realize the play of Shaitaan, seek refuge in Allah from the accursed Shaitaan, remember the covenant he has made with His Lord, and abstain from doing any deed that will bring about the Wrath and Anger of Allah Subhanah.

If we can only cultivate the solemn belief in ourselves that The All Knowing is watching every thing that we do, and fear the standing in His Majestic Presence on an Inevitable Day to give a full accounting of our deeds; we will strive never to disobey the commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws).

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan