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I`m looking to get married, & I have a friend that I like. How do I find out if he feels the same? is there a niya/suplication that would help me find out?

Thank you

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Answer:

Girl lives boy and marriage

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

My dear and beloved sister in Islam, it is only natural that when one gets of age they will like some one special above others, and think about spending the rest of their lives with this person. There is absolutely no harm and no sin in such a feeling; provided one does not transgress the boundaries of Allah and His Messenger (saws) and starts developing an illicit or secret relationship with the person out of marriage.

If you sincerely like the person and wish to get married to him, do the righteous and honorable thing and let your desire be known to your parents or guardians and let them evaluate the condition, character, and reputation of the person concerned. If they are satisfied with your choice, they will take the steps to send a proposal to the person concerned.

Your Question: is there a niya/suplication that would help me find out?

Beloved sister, the knowledge of liking or disliking someone is a condition of the other person’s heart; and the true conditions of one’s hearts are known to none except the one who possesses the heart himself, and The One Lord Who is All-Knowing, All-Wise. There is no way for one human to find out the secrets or intentions of another person’s heart, except that the person declares it himself!

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan