I am getting married i just had to ask my question is do i have to have sex the first night of my marrage
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I hope u dont mind but i am getting married i just had to ask my question is do i have to have sex the first night of my marrage and if i say no to my husband would the mean that i am being mean to him.
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Sex on marriage night
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Beloved sister in Islam, there is absolutely no obligation or condition in Islam that the couple have to conjugate on their wedding night; it is entirely upto the married couple to decide when they wish to enjoy their conjugal relations.
But if one of the partners in marriage desires or invites the other to enjoy conjugal relations with them (on the wedding night or otherwise), it would not befit the other to turn their invitation down.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 4.460 Narrated by Abu Huraira
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "If a husband calls his wife to his bed (i.e. to have sexual relation) and she refuses and causes him to sleep in anger, the Angels will curse her till morning."
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