.i love a girl who also loves me.before she was not very isleamic but now after i told her she has started wearing burqa and has become quite islamic
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asak.i love a girl who also loves me.before she was not very isleamic but now after i told her she has started wearing burqa and has become quite islamic.will she get reward for this?and we both want to marry each other.so is love marriage lawful in islam?and one moe problem is that she goes to dargah.how do i convince her not to go there without offending her.please help.allahafiz
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Love marriage lawful
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Your Question: is love marriage lawful in islam?
Dear and Beloved brother in Islam, love-hate, like-dislike, joy-sorrow, smile-weep, etc. are natural emotions of mankind! What determines virtue and sin is what one says or does when one experiences these natural emotions!
To love someone is a natural emotion, and there is absolutely no sin if one loves another person; it is what one does after one has fallen in love with that person which would determine whether it would be counted as a virtue and a good deed in the Sight of Allah or a sin!
If one falls in love, and informs ones guardians that they love so and so, and requests them to sanctify their love in the sacred bond of marriage so that they may love each other for the rest of their lives would be counted as a virtue and a good deed in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
But if one falls in love, and strives to meet the person in secret and in private, and in their love transgress the boundaries of Allah Subhanah before they are united in the sacred bond of marriage; then indeed it would constitute a huge sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Your Question: after i told her she has started wearing burqa and has become quite islamic.will she get reward for this?
Sahih Al-Bukhari HadithHadith 3.706 Narrated byUmar bin Al Khattab
The Prophet (saws) said, "The reward of deeds depend on intentions, and every person will get the reward according to his intentions. So, whoever migrated for Allah and His Messenger (saws), then his migration will be for Allah and His Messenger (saws), and whoever migrated for worldly benefits or for marrying a woman, then his migration will be for what he migrated for."
The principle for earning rewards in the Sight of Allah Subhanah depends entirely upon the person who does the deed. If the sister adorned herself with the hijaab because her intention was to obey her Creators Command, then indeed she will have her due reward for her obedience; but if her intention to adorn herself with the hijaab was to please or obey her loved ones, then her hijaab is for them.
Your Question: and one moe problem is that she goes to dargah. how do i convince her not to go there without offending her.please help
If the sister occasionally visits the dargah or graveyard in her vicinity of some deceased pious slave of Allah with the intention to supplicate for the deceased, there is no harm. But if the sister visits the dargah, not to make supplications for the deceased but rather to invoke or worship the deceased, or seek the deceaseds intercession for herself or her loved-ones, then indeed it would constitute an act of the abomination and most heinous crime of shirk in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Beloved brother, the only way to convince someone to abstain from acts of shirk is to make them thoroughly understand the concept of the Power, Strength and Capabilities of the One and Only True Lord and Creator of the Worlds, Allah Subhanah.and the absolute best way for one to comprehend the Majesty and Supremacy of the Lord Creator is to read His Glorious Message, the Al-Quran with understanding.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumar verse 3:
Is it not to Allah that sincere devotion is due? But those who take awliyaas other than Allah (say): "We only serve them (the awliyaas) in order that they may bring us nearer to Allah." Truly Allah will judge between them in that wherein they differ. But Allah guides not such as are false and ungrateful.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 10 Surah Yunus verse 18:
These people serve beside Allah those which can neither harm nor benefit them, and say, These are our shofaa (intercessors) with Allah! (O Mohammed), tell them, Do you wish to inform Allah of that thing which He knows not in the heavens, or in the earth? He is absolutely free from, and exalted above the shirk that they commit.
Chapter 46 Surah Ahqaf verses 4-6:
Prophet, say to them, "Have you ever seen them with open eyes those whom you invoke instead of Allah? Show me what they have created in the earth? Or have they any share in the creation and control of the heavens? Bring me a Book revealed before this, or produce some remnant of knowledge in support of your beliefs if you are truthful." And who could be further astray than the one who invokes, instead of Allah, those who cannot answer him till the Day of Resurrection. Nay, they are even UNAWARE THAT THEY ARE BEING INVOKED. And when all mankind shall be gathered together (on the Day of Qiyamah), they (the so called leaders and intercessors) will become enemies of those who invoked them and they will DISOWN THEIR WORSHIP!!!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 18 Surah Kahf verse 102:
What? Do these people, who have disbelieved, presume that they would make My servants their auliyaas besides Me? We have prepared Hell for the hospitality of such people.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 72:
shirk (invoking anything with Allah),
Allah shall forbid for him
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,