Im 22yrs old syed girl.ilikea guy for the past 4 yrs and want to marry him. he also wants to marry me and has even talked to his parents about it..he and dis family both are religious....
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im 22yrs old syed girl.ilikea guy for the past 4 yrs and want to marry him. he also wants to marry me and has even talked to his parents about it..he and dis family both are religious....
the problem is that my family do not marry "girls" outside syeds... my extended family considers it a sin for a syed girl to get married outside syed but i do not belive in it....i love my parents and i know that if i leave this guy for my parents allah will reward me... but what confuses me is that my parents are stopping me to marry him on a wrong thing... his being born in a non syed family was not in his hands...
family while choosing the perfect match for their daughters only look at the
fact whether the perspective groom is a syed or not.. im hundred percent sure
that the match my parents choose for me will be not as religious as his is..
most of the marriages in our family are intermariages.. most of the guys in our family do not pray, go to discos, some even drink... but my parents say that they will change by time... for them th most imp point is groom being syed nothing else...
if i want to marry this guy here is no other option for me but to go for a court marriage... to this my friend does not agree as he says we have no right to hurt our parents so much... i myself dnt want to hurt them and im very confused... is syed girl not allowed to marry outside syed....
if i marry this non syed guy my family will stop seeing me as the same thing has happened in other cases plz guide as to what to do
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Syed Marry non syed
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Your Question: is syed girl not allowed to marry outside syed....
The literal meaning of the Arabic term Syed is a leader, and is used in colloquial Arabic as a term for respect like Mr. in the English language.
There is no particular sect, tribe or family which is known as Syeds. This Syed term for some reason has become synonymous in the Indo-Pak region to mean a descendant of the Noble Messenger of Allah (saws) and is most probably derived from the early Arab settlers who came to the Indo-Pak region and were called Syeds in respect by the local population.
The descendants of the Noble Prophet of Allah (saws) are better known as the Banu-Hashim or the Hashimites.
There are a lot of people in the Indian Subcontinent who
call themselves Syeds and connote that they are descendants of the Messenger
of Allah (saws). They may or may not
be the direct descendants of the Prophet (saws) or from the
Even if one were to belong to the family of
Your Question: if i marry this non syed guy my family will stop seeing me as the same thing has happened in other cases plz guide as to what to do
If your parents objection to your marriage with your choice is only because the boy is a non-syed, then indeed their reason is invalid and without merit. As wrong and invalid their decision in rejecting your marriage to your choice might be, they are still your parents and their rights upon you are second to none except the rights due to Allah and His Messenger (saws).
Thus in our humble opinion, it would be best if you could with absolute humility, tenderness, politeness, wisdom and extreme patience try to convince your parents to consent to your choice in marriage. But if after your best efforts they are still adamant in their refusal, and you have to choose between your parents and the boy, as your brothers and well-wishers in faith our sincere advice to you would be to sacrifice your love for the boy and choose your parents. Allah is our witness sister, you will always find another person to love and marry; but never ever will you be able to find another set of parents!
When a man came to him and said, "I have a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce," he replied to him that he had heard Allah's Messenger (saws) say, "A parent is the best of the gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."
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