Is it okay in islam to have a crush on someone . i mean its just a grudge i have
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i just wanted to ask tat is it okay in islam to have a crush on someone . i mean its just a grudge i have . i have this crush on a guy who used to be in my class but now he`s not my class anymore so i really dont have a crush on him anymore . but i used to and i just to think abt him . i didnt think anything bad abt him or dirty things just how cute he is . nor did i ever approach him becuz he doesnt even know i exist so tat wasnt a problem . i just wanted to know i hope i didnt do a wrong thing having some feelings abt a guy becuz i like the way he is , and even though i havent even talked to him .
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Dear and Beloved Sister, love-hate, like-dislike, joy-sorrow, smile-weep, etc. are natural emotions of mankind! It is neither virtue nor sin in themselves when these natural emotions occur, but what determines virtue or sin is what one says or does when one experiences these natural emotions!
To love or be attracted to someone is a natural emotion, and there is absolutely no sin if one likes another person; it is what one does or says after one has fallen in love with that person which would determine whether it would be counted as a virtue and a good deed in the Sight of Allah or a sin!
If one falls in love, and informs ones guardians that they love so and so, and requests them to sanctify their love in the sacred bond of marriage so that they may love each other for the rest of their lives would be counted as a virtue and a good deed in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
But if one falls in love, and strives to meet the person in secret or in private, and in their love transgress the boundaries of Allah Subhanah before they are united in the sacred bond of marriage; then indeed it would constitute a huge sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
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