I have been stressed with a very big problem on my hands. My wife has asked to stop keeping relations with my family.
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Assalmalaikum brother, I have been stressed with a very big problem on my hands. My wife has asked to stop keeping relations with my family. According to her, their presence in our life only causes problems for us. They don`t get along and now she has told me that if I want to continue to interact with them she would leave me. Please advise.
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Break relations with family
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 13 Surah Ar-Raad verse 25:
As for those who break their covenant with Allah after confirming it, who cut asunder relationships which Allah has bidden to be joined, and spread chaos on the earth, theirs shall be the curse, and they shall have a wretched abode in the Hereafter.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Bakarah verse 27:
And He leads astray only those who disobey Allah, who break Allahs covenant after ratifying it, who cut asunder relationships what Allah has ordered to be joined, and who produce chaos on the Earth. These are indeed the people who are the losers.
The Prophet (saws) said, "The word 'Ar-Rahm (womb) derives its name from Ar-Rahman (i.e., one of the names of Allah) and Allah said: 'I will keep good relation with the one who will keep good relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin), and sever the relation with him who will sever the relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin).
Allah 's Messenger (saws) said, "Whoever loves that he be granted more wealth and that his lease of life be prolonged, then he should keep good relations with his kith and kin."
It is absolutely impermissible, forbidden, and an abomination of a sin in the Sight of Allah for one to break or sever ties or relationships of blood which the Lord Himself has created for them!
My dear and beloved brother, as much as one may love ones wife and strive to honor and cherish and fulfill all their lawful needs and wants, one should know with absolute conviction that if ones wife were to leave him, he could easily find himself another wife.but even if he were to search the expanse of the heavens and the earth, he would not be able to find himself another father or mother who gave him birth and unconditionally loved, nourished, protected, and cherished him his full life!!!
If ones parents and ones wife dont get along, it would be prudent and wise to give the wife a separate accommodation and space.but under absolutely no condition should a son ever even contemplate breaking or severing his relations or being undutiful towards his parents and his blood-relations.
The Prophet (saws) was asked about the
(1 ) To join others in worship with Allah,
(2) To be undutiful to one's parents,
(3) To commit murder,
(4) And to give a false witness."
Beloved brother, Allah is our witness, second only to the most heinous and gravest of crimes in Islam, ie. shirk or associating another god in worship with Allah Subhanah, is for one to be undutiful to ones parents..leave alone breaking or severing relations with them! Whatever ones condition may be, whatever the consequences it may bring, whatever the situation.there is absolutely no excuse for one to break or sever relations which Allah Subhanah has Himself made for them.
And if ones wife has threatened that she would leave him if he does not fulfill her wish to sever his relations with his parents, then so be it!!! Allah is our witness brother, you will easily be able to replace a wife, but never ever will you be able to replace your parents and blood-relatives!!!
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,