Is it okay for a guy to marry a girl who does not wear hijab and isn`t planning to wear hijab although she`s muslim??
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--Is it okay for a guy to marry a girl who does not wear hijab and isn`t planning to wear hijab although she`s muslim??
--Also can a person pray even though you don`t wear hijab e.g you only wear hijab to pray but not otherwise.
--are woman allowed to wear pants?
--can men wear silver rings and necklaces and bracelets??
--if a man does not have a career but has a job that pays and a girl he`s interested in also has a decent paying job would it be appropriate for them to get married knowing that there might be financial difficulties/struggles in the future.
--if a young man is supporting his parents and siblings in another country financially and he`s not married and he wants to get married how would he go about that financially because it would be difficult and stressful because he doesn`t want to leave his family hungry but at the same time he wants to fulfill half his religion.
--can a person only follow one mathhab? can he not follow some parts in one and other parts in another according to what he wants?
-if you know that you have a succesful business plan but the only way you can get capital is by taking a loan that would require you to pay interest.
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Marry women without hijab
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Your question: --Is it okay for a guy to marry a girl who does not wear hijab and isn`t planning to wear hijab although she`s muslim??
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 59: O Prophet, enjoin your wives and daughters, and the believing women, that they should cast their outer garments over their persons. It is expected that they will thus be recognized, and not molested. Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Nur verse 31: (O Prophet) enjoin the believing woman to restrain their gaze and guard their modesty, and not to display their adornment except that which is displayed of itself, and to draw their veils over their bosoms, and not to display their adornments except before their husbands, their fathers, .and also forbid them to stamp their feet on the ground lest their hidden ornaments should be displayed.
Allah Subhanah has Commanded the believing woman to adorn the hijaab and any woman who claims to believe but does not adorn the hijaab would be in manifest violation of one of the clear Commands of her Lord.
If a believer marries a believing woman who chooses to disobey the clear Command of her Lord to adorn the hijaab, provided all the conditions of an Islamic Nikaah are fulfilled, the marriage will be deemed absolutely legal, lawful and valid in the Sight of Shariah, the believers, and Allah Subhanah.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."
Although it is perfectly lawful and legal for a believer to marry a believing woman who chooses to disobey a clear Command of her Lord and not adorn the hijaab, the Messenger of Allah (saws) recommended the believers to marry righteous religious women, otherwise they would be losers!
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.592 Narrated by Abdullah bin Umar
I heard Allah's Messenger (saws) saying, "Everyone of you is a guardian, and responsible for what is in his custody. The ruler is a guardian of his subjects and responsible for them; a husband is a guardian of his family and is responsible for it; a lady is a guardian of her husband's house and is responsible for it, and a servant is a guardian of his master's property and is responsible for it; so all of you are guardians and responsible for your wards and things under your care."
The husband is the guardian of his family, and he will be held responsible for whatever happens in his immediate family. Not only will the wife who chooses to disobey her Lord and not adorn the hijaab will be accountable for her disobedience in the Court of Allah, the husband too will share part of the blame for not enforcing the Laws of Allah upon those under his guardianship!
Your question: --Also can a person pray even though you don`t wear hijab e.g you only wear hijab to pray but not otherwise.
Amongst the obligatory conditions of prayer is that the believing woman is completely covered while she is in the state of prayer; otherwise her prayer will not be accepted. The believing woman who fulfills all the obligatory conditions of prayer will receive her due reward; but she will be held accountable in the Presence of her Majestic Lord for disobeying one of His Commands by not adorning the hijaab when in the presence of non-mehrams.
Sahih Muslim Hadith 6840 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Messenger (saws) said: There are two types, amongst the denizens of Hell, I
have yet not seen them. One possessing whips like the tail of an ox and they
flog people with them. (The second one) the women who would be naked in spite
of their being dressed, who are seduced (to wrong paths) and seduce others with
their hair high like humps. These women would not get into Paradise and they
would not perceive the odour of
Beloved brother, Islam is not a religion where one picks and chooses which laws one wishes to obey and follow, and which laws one wishes to disobey, disregard, and deny! Only total submission and obedience is acceptable to Allah Subhanah, the Lord of the Worlds!
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verses 208-209:
208 O ye who believe! Enter into Islam kaafaah (completely, totally, whole-heartedly, etc.); and follow not the footsteps of the Shaytaan; for he is to you an avowed enemy.
209 If ye backslide after the Clear (Signs) have come to you, then know that Allah is Exalted in Power, Wise.
Your question: --are woman allowed to wear pants?
There is no particular Islamic uniform prescribed for either man or woman; any clothing which is suitable and does not fall in or violate any of the principles listed below will be deemed absolutely legal and appropriate for the believers.
Men should not imitate women in their clothing; nor should women imitate men in their clothing.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.773 Narrated by Ibn Abbas
The Messenger of Allah (saws) invoked the curse of Allah on those men who are in the similitude (assume the manners, clothes, etc. ) of women, and those women who are in the similitude (assume the manners, clothes, etc.) of men.
Clothes worn should not announce arrogance.
For example, if one wears a designer label garment with the intention to show off, or feel proud and arrogant while wearing it; then that would be forbidden. But if one wears a designer label garment because he likes its styling or color or cut or comfort, there is absolutely no harm in doing so. Thus, the real issue is not whether the garment is designer label or not; the real issue is one of arrogance or being proud; for Allah does not love those who are proud and arrogant.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.683 Narrated by Abdullah bin Umar
Allahs Messenger (saws) said, "Whoever drags his clothes (on the ground) out of pride and arrogance, Allah will not look at him on the Day of Resurrection."
The satr of the person (man or woman) must be covered.
The literal meaning of the Arabic word satr is something that is hidden, or something which should be hidden.
When used in the Islamic context, satr means the parts of the human body which are obligatory on the believers to be hidden from everyone else, except his/her partner in marriage.
For the believing males, the satr are the parts of the body between the navel and the knees inclusive. These parts of the body of the male cannot be disclosed even to other males.
For the believing woman her satr before non-mehram males is her complete body, except what is displayed of itself. There are two opinions amongst the scholars regarding of what is included in the term what is displayed of itself: one opinion is that the face, eyes, and hands may be left uncovered, and the other opinion is that the face should be covered, and only the hands may be left open.
For the believing woman, her satr before her mehram male relatives and the other woman is from the beginning of her breasts to her knees (inclusive).
There is no satr between a husband and a wife in Islam.
The clothes worn must not be tight so as to display ones figure and curves, and should not be transparent.
Al-Muwatta Hadith 48.7
Yahya related to me from Malik from Muslim ibn Abi Maryam from Abu Salih that Abu Hurayra said, "Women who are naked even though they are wearing clothes, go astray and make others go astray, and they will not enter the Garden and they will not find its scent, and its scent is experienced from as far as the distance travelled in five hundred years."
The clothes worn must not be an imitation of the pagans or disbelievers.
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 4020 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
The Prophet (saws) said: He who copies any people is one of them.
There is absolutely no harm if a believing woman wishes to wear long pants, provided the pant she wears are not tight, nor transparent, nor resembling the mens pants. But if she is going out in public or in front of non-mehram males, it would be purer and better for her if she would wear a loose chador or burqa or some sort of a loose outer-covering over her head and body; as that would be closer to the obedience of the Command of Allah Subhanah on the apparel of the believing woman.
Your question:--can men wear silver rings and necklaces and bracelets??
There is absolutely no evidence in the example of the Messenger of Allah (saws) or his noble companions that they would adorn themselves with jewelry. It is indeed a fact that the Messenger of Allah (saws) wore a silver ring, but that was only when he (saws) had established an Islamic State in Madinah, and the ring was used as a seal during his correspondence with the leaders of other tribes. There is absolutely no evidence that the Messenger of Allah (saws) wore the ring or any other form of jewelry prior to his becoming the leader of the Islamic State in Madinah.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.774 Narrated by Ibn Abbas
The Prophet invoked the curse of Allah on the effeminate men (those men who imitate or assume the manners or characteristics of women) and those women who assume the manners (and characteristics) of men.
Adornment and aids of beauty (like make-up, jewelry, necklaces, chains, bracelets, ear-rings, etc.) are a characteristic specific to women, and it absolutely does not behove a believer who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day to adorn himself with something that enhances the beauty of women!
Although usage of the metal silver is not prohibited for men in Islam, to wear a silver ring, necklace, bracelet or jewelry only as an adornment of beauty would not behove and befit one amongst the believing males who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day, and it would be best and closer to piety if they would abstain from every such adornment which is specific to the nature of women.
Your question: --if a man does not have a career but has a
job that pays and a girl he`s interested in also has a decent paying job would
it be appropriate for them to get married knowing that there might be financial
difficulties/struggles in the future.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34 (part): Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more than the other, and because they support them from their means.
Islam has laid the complete financial responsibility of running a household on the shoulders of the men; and it does not behove and befit a believer who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day to expect or demand that his wife too work and share the expenses of running the house. But if the wife of her own free will and choice, wishes to work and share in the expenses without any force or coercion whatsoever, there is absolutely no harm and she would be considered doing something over and above her call of duty and it is only appropriate that the husband appreciate her favor and be grateful towards her.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.129 Narrated by Alqama
While I was walking with 'Abdullah he said, "We were in the company of the Prophet (saws) and he (saws) said, 'He who can afford to marry should marry, because it will help him refrain from looking at other women, and save his private parts from committing illegal sexual relation; and he who cannot afford to marry is advised to fast, as fasting will diminish his sexual power.' "
If one can afford to marry and provide even the very basics needed for survival, then it is absolutely recommended in Islam that he should marry. If one cannot even afford to provide the basics needed to run a household, then the Messenger of Allah (saws) recommended that such a person should fast, as fasting would reduce his sexual desires.
It is neither recommended nor encouraged in Islam that one delay ones marriage if one can afford it! The accepted theory in educated-but-ignorant societies is that one should accumulate wealth before one marries; but Islam guides that those who marry desiring to live a chaste and pure life, it is incumbent upon Allah Subhanah to help them and give increase in their sustenance!
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3089 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "There are three (kinds of people) whom it is right for Allah to help (give increase in their sustenance): the slave whose master has agreed to let him buy his freedom when he wishes to pay the sum, the one who marries desiring to live a chaste life, and the one who fights in Allah's path."
Your question: --if a young man is supporting his parents and siblings in another country financially and he`s not married and he wants to get married how would he go about that financially because it would be difficult and stressful because he doesn`t want to leave his family hungry but at the same time he wants to fulfill half his religion.
If the person can afford to marry and give his due rights to his parents as well as his wife, he should trust Allah and choose to get married; for the Messenger of Allah (saws) guided that Allah Subhanah has taken upon Himself to help and increase the sustenance of a person who marries with the intention to live a chaste life.
Your question: --can a person only follow one mathhab? can he not follow some parts in one and other parts in another according to what he wants?
A deen is something which forms the constitution of a way of life, while a madhab is a school of thought or opinion which clarify some aspects of the deen.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Al Maidah verse 3: Today I (Allah) have perfected your deen for you and completed my Blessing on you and approved Islam as your deen (way of life).
Allah says in Chapter 32 Surah Rum aayat 31-32: "This (Islam) is the right and true faith, but most people do not know. (Be steadfast on this) turning wholly and sincerely towards Allah Alone, and fear Him, and establish the Salat, and do not be like the mushriks, who have set up their separate creeds and divided themselves into sects, each sect rejoicing in what it has."
Allah says in Chapter 42 Surah Ash-Shura aayat 13: "He has appointed for you the same Way of Life, which He had ordained for Noah, and which (O Mohamed (saws)) We have now revealed to you, and which We had already enjoined on Abraham and Moses and Jesus, stressing this: " Establish this way and be not divided in it"."
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 23 Surah Muminoon verse 52-54: And you all belong to one and the same ummah, and I(Allah) am your Lord; so fear Me Alone! Yet afterwards the people divided themselves into different sects, and each sect rejoicing in what it has.
Allah Subhanah has Commanded the believers to unconditionally obey only Him and His Messenger (saws), thus no one else deserves or should be accorded unconditional obedience! Our duty as believers is to obey and follow Allah and His Messenger (saws) and that is what we shall be called to account on the Inevitable Day of Judgment.
If one worships Allah, and does not associate any partner with Him, believes and follows the Messenger of Allah, considers what Allah and His Messenger (saws) states haraam as haraam and halaal as halaal, fears Allah as He should be feared, and does righteous deeds, it would not really matter if he followed one madhab and stood in the prayers with his hands folded, or followed the other madhab and left them unfolded, provided his intention was to follow the Messenger of Allah (saws). Whatever the imams have stated, they have given their best opinion, in light of the Quran and Sunnah. Thus if one follows any one, or a combination amongst them, provided their intention is to follow the Commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws) they will have their due reward from Allah Subhanah.
The slight difference in opinion that exists between one madhab and another is never a matter of wrong and right, but of good and better; thus regardless of which opinion one wishes to follow, provided ones intention is to obey Allah and His Messenger (saws), he will have his reward from Allah Subhanah.
Your question: can he not follow some parts in one and other parts in another according to what he wants?
It would neither be piety nor righteousness to follow what one wants, but the intention after one has truly submitted oneself to the Lord in Islam should be to follow the opinion which he sincerely feels is closest to the Command and Guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws).
Your question: -if you know that you have a succesful business plan but the only way you can get capital is by taking a loan that would require you to pay interest.
Allah says further in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 278: O Believers!, Fear Allah and give up that riba which is still due to you, if you are true believers. But if you do not do so, then you are warned of the declaration of war against you by Allah and His Messenger!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisa verse 161: That they took riba, although they were forbidden. And that they devoured mens substance wrongfully. We have prepared for those among them who reject faith a grievous punishment (of Hell Fire)!
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2827 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Even though usury be much, it leads in the end to penury."
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 4.28 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "Avoid the seven great destructive sins. The people enquired, "O Allah's Apostle! What are they? "He said, "1. To join others in worship along with Allah, to practice sorcery, 2. to kill the life which Allah has forbidden except for a just cause, (according to Islamic law), 3. to eat up riba (usury), 4. to eat up an orphan's wealth, 5. to give back to the enemy and 6. fleeing from the battlefield at the time of fighting, and 7. to accuse chaste women, who never even think of anything touching chastity and are good believers. (The Prophet (saws) included riba in one of the Seven Destructive Sins. If we read the other sins which accompany the list, one can imagine what is the magnitude of the sin of riba)
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2829 Narrated by Ali ibn AbuTalib
Ali said he heard Allah's Messenger (saws) invoke the curse of Allah on those who took usury, those who paid it, those who recorded it, and those who refused to give sadaqah.
The taking and paying of interest is absolutely forbidden in Islam, and the believers who sincerely fear Allah and the Last Day must strive to abstain from indulging in it.
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.
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Your Brother in Islam,