I have my girlfirend. i frequently stay with her in her house. and our relationship had been known to our parents
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Assalamualaykum i have my girlfirend. i frequently stay with her in her house. and our relationship had been known to our parents. and our marriage is already set as soon as i get into a job. is it okay to hug her?
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Is it okay to hug girlfriend?
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Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5: This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity, not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith, fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter; he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good).
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32: Do not even go near zina (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way!
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3118 Narrated by Umar ibn al-Khattab
The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a (non-mehram) woman the Shaytaan makes a third!"
Dear and Beloved Brother in Islam, Islam absolutely prohibits and forbids the casual friendship, talking, meeting, etc. of non-mehrams; for these are paths that approach the evil and abomination of zina (fornication and adultery), and zina is listed amongst the gravest sins in Islam.
Engagement to marry has absolutely no legal basis in Islam, and unless and until one unites with the non-mehram member of the opposite sex in the sacred bond of marriage, living with the non-mehram woman or touching her would be deemed absolutely impermissible, unacceptable and a sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
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