1, My Friend married with his own choice it was not at all forceblly done, But after marriage his relation with his wife is not usual. He is hardly on bed with her. in a month its hardly 5 to 6 times.This is creating lot of problems in their lifes, now i want to know the proper answer in the light of Quran and sunnah. following are my Questions.
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This time i have a critical issues for my friend i will really appreciate if
you answer me according to Quran And Sunnah.
1, My Friend married with his own choice it was not at all forceblly done, But
after marriage his relation with his wife is not usual. He is hardly on bed
with her. in a month its hardly 5 to 6 times.This is creating lot of problems
in their lifes, now i want to know the proper answer in the light of Quran and
sunnah. following are my Questions.
A, Will that Man will be punished in the day of JUdgement ???
B, What is his right towards his wife, isint it Haram to do so.???
C, If My sister do some thing Wrong (La samah Hallah) nauzibillah on a wrong
path who will be blamed ?????
D, or is it some kind of Magic and if so then how shall we know what is the
reason.
E, or is it some Deffeciency
Please help us in the matter at earliest. i want to show him what islam sayzz
abt this kind of man then i want totake him to the doctor even if this is not
solved the to Some Sheikh in mecca. Please suggest me what to do.
Jazakallah Khair
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Answer:
Marriage issues
In the
name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness.
Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray,
none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no
person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your Statement: My Friend married
with his own choice it was not at all forceblly done, But after marriage his
relation with his wife is not usual. He is hardly on bed with her. in a month
its hardly 5 to 6 times.This is creating lot of problems in their lifes,
Apart
from all the other duties, responsibilities and wisdom that lie in the sacred
institution of marriage, one amongst them is that it is only through this
sacred institution of marriage that a man and a woman can lawfully and legally
fulfill their natural physical desire.
Because
the sexual desire of each individual may be different according to their
physical or biological build-up, there is no particular limit set in Islam of
how many times maximum or minimum a person may enjoy conjugal relations with
their spouse. It is possible that one
may be satisfied with having sexual intercourse only once a month, while
another who has a bigger or healthier desire may wish to enjoy their lawful
relation several times a day.
It may
happen that at times one of the partners in marriage has a bigger natural appetite
for sex than the other; but instead of allowing this difference in appetite to
lead to friction or dissatisfaction, the partners must talk to each other and
make their needs known to their spouse, and they should come to an amicable
understanding between themselves.
Your Question-A: Will that Man will
be punished in the day of JUdgement ???
If a man marries a woman, and absolutely refuses to fulfill his duties as a
husband, one of which is enjoying physical relations with his wife; indeed he
would be guilty of not giving his wife one of her rights in marriage and would
indeed be accountable for his injustice in the Presence of the Lord Most High
on an Inevitable Day.
But if
the person, as you have mentioned, fulfills this right in his marriage five to
six times a month; it might be that this frequency might be enough to satisfy
his appetite for sexual intercourse. If
the wife is dis-satisfied with this frequency, she should make it known to her
husband and work out an amicable understanding between themselves.
Your Question-B: What is his right
towards his wife, isint it Haram to do so.???
If the husband
(or the wife) absolutely refuses to have sexual intercourse in their marriage,
not only would it be unnatural, but the one who permanently refuses to fulfill
this right of their partner in marriage would be guilty in the Sight of Allah
Subhanah for their transgression and injustice.
Your Question-C: If My sister do
some thing Wrong (La samah Hallah) nauzibillah on a wrong path who will be
blamed ?????
If one feels one has been wronged, it does not mean in any way nor does it
become legal and lawful for them to commit a prohibited act in Islam! If the wife who is not satisfied sexually by
her husband tries to satisfy her desire out of marriage, she would be guilty of
a severe transgression and sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Your Question-D: or is it some
kind of Magic and if so then how shall we know what is the reason.
Your Question-E: or is it some Deffeciency
It may be that the husband has a natural lower desire for sex, or it may be
that there might be a medical or physical deficiency; it would be best to
consult the medical experts and take their opinion.
Believing
that ‘magic’ or some ‘spell’, or something or someone is able to harm another
in the ‘unseen’, is to disbelieve in the ‘Qadr’ of Allah Subhanah and a
manifestation of the evil abomination of ‘kufr’ and ‘shirk’!
Whatever
written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance,
and whatever of error is of me alone.
Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in
Islam,