Man wishes to be friend with girl
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
How are you brother...... well my problem is a bit confidencial...... I,m writing it in urdu bcoz writing in english is a bit difficult for me.....
Mein jab matric mein thi to mera aik lerke say affair chala.... Us lerke say mein us ki shop per baat kerti thi..... Wahan aik aur lerka tha jo yeh sub janta tha.... Meri us say bhi dosti thi infact use mein nay bhai banaya hua tha..... Woh sub janta tha..... ALLAH ka bohot bohot shuker hai kay mein zada door jane say pehle hi wapis aa gayee..... Kyunki mein us say shadi kerna chahti thi.....
Mera pehla sawal yeh hai kay us nay 3 baar mere haath per kiss ki thi aur 1 baar cheeks per...... Mein
hamesha ALLAH say mafi mangti rahi hoon apni us herkat ki waja say..... Koi khaas dua bhi batain is kay liye.... Aur kya ALLAH mian mujhay maaf ker dain gay ager mein sache dil say toba ker loon to.....
Dosra masla yeh hai kay jis kay saath mera affair tha us say to mein nay peecha chura liya mager jo doosra lerka tha woh mera peecha nahin chorta.....
Us kay paas mere kuch letters hain jo mein nay affair wale lerke ko likhe the...... Woh akser baar mere ghar bhi photostate bhej chuka hai....... Abhi halat mein nay us ki maan ker kafi hud tak kaboo mein ker liye hain..... Mein us say kafi dafa baher mili hoon chup ker isi liye woh khamosh hai..... Woh kehta hai kay us ki neeyat kharab nahin hai woh bus dosti rakhna chahta hai....... Mujhay batain aise halat mein mein kya karoon........
Plzzzzz mujhay jald say jald is ka kawab bhejein......
Ab woh her aik hafte baad mujhay phone kerta hai aur kehta hai kay mein us say baat karoon......
mein nay ALLAH kay saath ehd kiya tha kay mein ab koi ghalti nahin karoon gi mager phir mujhay is ki baat manna per rahi hai..... Kya yeh sahi hai.....
waiting for your early reply......
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Man wishes to be friend with girl
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your Question: Mein hamesha ALLAH say mafi mangti rahi hoon apni us herkat ki waja say..... Koi khaas dua bhi batain is kay liye.... Aur kya ALLAH mian mujhay maaf ker dain gay ager mein sache dil say toba ker loon to.....
Whatever deeds one might have done, if one turns to Allah Subhanah in sincere Taubah and seeks forgiveness, Allah Subhanah has promised in the Holy Quran that He will forgive all the sins of such a believer, even if one has committed the gravest sin of all: ‘Shirk’! Not only that, our Lord is so Merciful and Generous, that He not only will forgive the sins of the believer, He will change his evil deeds done into good deeds!
The conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:
One is aware that he has sinned, and feels sorry and ashamed at his sin.
Makes a solemn covenant and promise with Allah that he will not repeat his sin again.
Turns to Allah and seeks forgiveness, before he has met with his appointment of death.
Is a believer and does righteous good deeds thereafter.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of the Merciful are those who walk humbly on the earth. When the ignorant people behave insolently towards them, they say, “Peace to you”; (And those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before their Lord and pray, “O our Lord, save us from the torment of Hell, for its torment is killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly, but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but Allah Alone, nor kill a soul unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who does this shall be punished for his sin, and his torment shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection, and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good deeds, and He is very Forgiving and Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Your Question: Mujhay batain aise halat mein mein kya karoon........
Beloved Sister, in this situation it would be best and purest if you confront this person and tell him frankly and in extremely plain terms to fear Allah and leave you alone. If he blackmails or threatens to expose your ex-affair to your family, challenge him to go ahead and fulfill his threat! If you were to give in to this blackmail or threats, you must realize that such evil people never stop and his demands will increase with time. It would be obviously better to talk to your father or brother regarding your past incident, rather than give into the threats of this evil person who seeks to blackmail you and might lead you to a path of no return.
Also remain constant in seeking help from Allah Subhanah, and implore Him to keep you always in His Protection and Mercy.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,