Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
i am in love with a girl
if i love her i told her is there any kind of (gunha)in islam please inform me me & instuct me please tell me
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In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
It is amongst the bestowed nature of man that he is attracted to other women; one may be attracted to her because of her beauty, or may be because of her wealth, or may be even because of her lineage or her character or her deen, etc. It would obviously not be righteousness if every time a man is attracted or loves a woman, he goes upto her and declares his love for her!
But if one truly loves the woman and wishes to honor the woman and marry her, there is absolutely no harm and no sin if one does the righteous thing and approaches her parents/guardians seeking her hand in marriage.
Thus there is absolutely no harm and no sin if one truly loves the woman and seeks marriage, to declare ones love for her in front of the girls parents/guardians. But it would indeed be considered a sin if one went around declaring his love to every woman one is attracted to. Besides, even when one declares his love, one should strive to stay within the boundaries of Islam, and not take the love to the next level and start meeting or talking to the girl in private, etc.; that would indeed be considered a grave sin in the sight of Allah Subhanah and an evil and unrighteous path.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3118 Narrated by Umar ibn al-Khattab
The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Shaytaan makes the third."
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Your Brother in Islam,