Sex when engaged
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
DEAR BURHAN, WILL YOU PLEASE LET ME KNOW AS SOON AS POSSIBLE ARE COUPLES ALLOWED TO HAVE SEXUAL INTERCOURSE WHEN THEY ARE ENGAGED THAK YOU
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Sex when engaged
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Dear and Beloved Sister in Islam, engagement or a commitment between a man and a woman to marry has absolutely no legal basis or role in Shariah; unless and until the actual Nikaah is performed where in presence of two witnesses and the guardian of the bride, the groom proposes to marry the woman for a determined amount of mehr, and the bride accepts his proposal.
Only after the Nikaah contract is completed, will the man and the woman be husband and wife, and permitted to conjugate with each other.
The engagement as we know it today has absolutely no legal basis or role in Shariah, and it would be absolutely illegal and a grave sin in the sight of Allah Subhanah if the man and woman were to have sexual intercourse before their nikaah.
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Your Brother in Islam,